Healthy pregnancies after an early miscarriage

[MochaMomma]

Hi everyone, i am new here so not sure if i posted this in the right section as it is something to do with pregnancy but also to do with a previous miscarriage 😣i recently had a missed miscarriage (pregnancy stopped growing at 5 weeks and i only found out when i was 11 weeks as i started spotting and then bleeding and had to go to the Early Pregnancy Assessment Unit where they told me the sad news)..
I have an 18 month old boy and my pregnancy on his turn was perfectly healthy with no problems whatsoever, the birth was also natural and straight forward. This was the first time i had a missed miscarriage and it has really worried me about trying for another baby.. it was so heartbreaking going through the whole miscarriage (waiting for my body to pass everything out naturally and having to see it all, sorry if TMI)..
I really want to have another baby as i feel my family would only be complete with 3 children and i am already 34.. but this has really shaken me up to the point where i become tearful just thinking about if i go through this miscarriage thing again and again.. whenever i search the internet i am bombarded with stories of women who have had multiple miscarriages with no success etc. I was wondering if there is actually anyone out there that had a missed miscarriage and then went on to having successful pregnancies without going through the heartbreak repeatedly?
I just need reassurance really.. i am really sorry for the super long post.. just really pouring out my worries hoping it's not all doom and gloom once you have a miscarriage 😢

[myleah]

I'm so sorry you lost your baby, that must have been so awful and all of your feelings are normal and justified.
I lost my first baby, it was also a missed miscarriage. It was truly heartbreaking and also filled me with absolute fear that I would be one of the unlucky ones that had recurring losses and that I would never become a mother. In reality 6months later I was pregnant again with a very healthy straight forward pregnancy, and I now have a child. Pregnant again with my second without any further issues also.
I know of two others who have had a missed miscarriage with their second pregnancy, to then go on and conceive and give birth to a health baby no2 not long at all after. Recurrent miscarriages are the minority, and in fact although miscarriages are common they're also the minority as you're statistically more likely to have a baby than a miscarriage when you're pregnant.
Try your very best to stay positive, all the odds are in your favour. You have had a heartbreaking experience and nothing will take that away, but there's a very very good chance you will get your rainbow baby, and probably sooner than you think! ❤️

[ZoeQ90]

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

Honestly, having a second miscarriage is rare and it is the far more common experience to go on to have a perfectly normal healthy pregnancy (with an understandable added dose of anxiety(.

I got pregnant 6 months after my missed miscarriage at 10 weeks. It's not been easy, the 12 week scan was terrifying, the waiting, but I'm 16 weeks and feeling more confident.

Take care of yourself, this is all really difficult.

[ChillysWaterBottle]

I'm really sorry about what happened OP. I have no stats or anything only anecdote but almost everyone I knew had one miscarriage before a healthy pregnancy, I was surprised how common it was. Some took a bit longer than others to conceive but all have ended up with the number of children they wanted (and my peer group tend to have children later than average, mid thirties is standard for a first here). Wishing you the best OP x

[myleah]

I should add - I'm the same age as you ☺️

[WingingIt101]

Op I was also 34 when I had my mmc. First pregnancy absolutely fine and had my daughter then when she was about 19/20 months had my miscarriage. Pregnant again within a month and other than very anxious for that pregnancy all was fine - I'm currently cuddling my not very sleepy 7 week old!

As pp have said it's much more common for it to be ok for subsequent pregnancies - good luck and I'm so sorry for your loss x

[MochaMomma]

Oh thank you for all the reassuring replies 🥰 it has certainly lifted my hopes and a huge change from seeing the many stories about people going on to having multiple miscarriages and still trying.. i didnt expect so much positivity and i am sure this thread will really help out so many others that have been through the same thing as me that are filled with worries and wanting to hear more positive outcomes.. thank you so much you all 🥰

[Demdemz]

Hey love

I had a MMC in 2020, baby died at 7w4d and I found out 9w5d. I hadn’t had any other kids so I was convinced I’d never be a mum. Cut to now with my six week old DD. I won’t lie, I had tonnes of reassurance scans as my anxiety was through the roof but DD was super healthy and still is today. It’s hard, very hard, but please be reassured that recurrent miscarriage generally is uncommon and even on the NHS website it states a miscarriage is usually a one off. Good luck!

[SiberFox]

Hi OP, I had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks that stopped growing at 6-7. Was hard to take, TTC #1 at 35. I fell pregnant again and am 27 weeks now, been anxious the whole time but baby is doing just fine. There is hope x