Third pregnancy after two mmc

[hopingthirdtimelucky]

Hi all this is my fourth pregnancy. First resulted in a baby boy who is now 3 and then this year I experienced 2 mmc one in feb and one straight after in June. This time round once I found out I was pregnant I have started taking low dose aspirin. Although I was taking more after lunch so may try more of evening after reading some stories. But hopefully just taking it daily will help either way. I did ask about progesterone but was told only given that if bleeding. My dates and app state I’m around 6 weeks although from my cycle being longer than the average it’s saying on nhs I’m around 4/5 which I feel is probably right due to how I’m feeling. I’m only experiencing tiredness and at the beginning was having really weird dreams. Just really hoping all is ok this time. We have a reassurance scan in two weeks time which I’m really dreading. If anyone else has positive stories please share. This is all that’s helping me at the moment.

Hi OP, I know it’s super hard and such an anxious time and I don’t have a happy ending to tell you, however after two MC’s you’re statistically just as likely to have this baby in your arms in 8 months as a Joe Bloggs member of the public.

I’ve had 4 MC’s in a row and it really is super super rare. Less than 1% of people will have 3 in a row, and even for someone like me with 4 in a row, I am still more likely then not to have a healthy baby at the end of my pregnancy.

I know how hard the anxiety is when you’re pregnant after loss. I’m currently beside myself with fear at around 6 weeks with few symptoms.

Remember as well when you’re reading things on the internet that people are far more likely to post when they are scared and anxious then they are when it’s all going swimmingly.

As hard as it is, find a distraction. Worrying isn’t going to change the outcome… (I really need to take my own advice…!)

I’m not quite there yet, but I had a mmc in April, and now I’m 18 weeks.

I ovulate late, and I ovulated later than my usual pattern on the cycle I conceived. So that’s 10 days later than the ‘typical day 14’. Luckily I tracked ovulation otherwise my anxiety would have been a lot worse going by my lmp. It’s good that you know to be prepared if your cycles tend to be on the longer side. I kept being told that it’s a new pregnancy and there’s every chance that this one will work out. Good luck and I hope it all works out well this time.

@hopingthirdtimelucky I've got a very similar story to you. A have son who is nearly 3 followed by a mmc in Jan , a miscarriage in June and now I'm 15 weeks pregnant. It's such a hard time isn't it? Even after the 12 week mark I'm not able to relax. I made a few small changes after my second miscarriage, like getting my vitamin d up to 100 (which is ideal for fertility). I found talking things over with a naturopath was helpful as they look at your blood results with more scrutiny than a GP would. I've also been doing a lot of online shopping to keep my mind occupied, that's my only advice 🤷‍♀️.

Hey @hopingthirdtimelucky congratulations on your pregnancy! And I'm sorry for your losses,

I had a mmc in June at 11 weeks, baby had stopped growing the week before, my heart broke.

I am currently 12 weeks pregnant today and have had three scans, so far all measuring on track, my nerves have been off the chart this pregnancy and we have our 12 week scan on Wednesday which I am dreading.

There is nothing I can say to ease your worries, but please try and take it each day at a time, I found it slightly easier when my symptoms started about 6 weeks, as I didn't have any in my Mmc! xx

Thank you so much everyone for your comments. First time posted on here and was lovely to have some comments and feel not so alone.
congratulations to you all and sorry for the losses too.
I have been guilty of online shopping too. Shopping does help me. I’ve been having folic acid with the extra vitamin d included since Jan this year as the midwife said to me after my first mmc don’t stop taking it as they like you to build it months before getting pregnant. Just had my aspirin after my tea. My little one has helped me so much too this year which I’m so thankful and grateful of.

@Moosh18 goodluck with the scan on wed let us know how you get on. Sure all is fine. Sounds positive too.

@Anoushka1986 thank you too for the advice it’s so hard what to do isn’t it.

@Blue2020 thats lovely news too good luck and sounds great.

@TheWeeLittleDonkey I feel for you and completely understand. Thank you for your comments too and sending you positive vibes your way and please keep in touch.

take care all xxxx

So sorry for your losses OP and fingers crossed for you for this pregnancy!

I had a miscarriage in Aug 2019, a mmc in Feb 2020 and fell pregnant a third time in April 2020... My DS will be 2 in January. It was a scary time and I was honestly just waiting for things to go wrong the whole third pregnancy.

If you start getting anxious during this pregnancy, do seek help from your midwife. I got pregnant again so quickly I don't think I had time to properly process it all and the waiting for things to go wrong definitely took it's toll. I also had a bleed that went unexplained at 16 weeks which sent me spiralling but the pregnancy continued without any further issue 🤷🏼‍♀️

Sending you best wishes 💐

@Lottie917 congratulations for the healthy arrival of your little one and sorry for your losses too. Thank you for sharing. I think you just over think so much after loss. I’m trying to stay positive and take each day as it comes just can’t help but worry but it’s just out of your controls. Can only do so much. I have tried midwife’s but they’re so busy. Xxx

Bless you OP. Pregnancy after loss can be very stressful and is horrific after multiple loss. There's nothing anyone can say really except that your statistical chance of further issues is low. Take each day as a new day and try not to think too much more than that.

Fwiw I lost 3 in early pregnancy a few years ago and then got pregnant again very quickly. Despite GD, I had such a smooth pregnancy, it was silly, but I was SO anxious. If it makes you feel any better then accidentally conceived again and DS2 is only 20m younger than DS1, and I was 43 by then. Sending you best wishes for a happy and healthy pregnancy.

@RinklyRomaine thank you for this and sorry for your losses. That’s lovely to hear of the rainbows afterwards.
when we put our Christmas decorations up the other weekend me and my son saw a double rainbow which haven’t seen like that for awhile. So hoping that was a sign as felt special.

@hopingthirdtimelucky that is so lovely! I've been speaking to a few women on here since finding our and it's really helped to have someone to share worries with talk symptoms or lack of etc! So please feel free to message if you need to chat! These first 12 weeks are such a a lonely time,

When we got back from our scan this pregnancy after we had loads of bleeding, there was a huge rainbow right over our house' I wish I'd taken a photo x

@Moosh18 it is, I was telling my husband last night. It’s comforting and lovely to share with you all. Thank you for your lovely comments and sending positivity to all 🙏🏼 xx