Feeling low - I'm not good at being pregnant

[ElizabethCaroline18]

I'm in the third trimester and from day 1 of pregnancy I've been ill. As soon as one thing improves I start with another symptom or complication. I feel rubbish, like my body just isn't designed to be pregnant or is rejecting the baby. I know that's ridiculous but I must be the unluckiest pregnant woman ever as I've had three quite uncommon complications now. All my friends that have had babies had straightforward pregnancies and seemed to love it. Prepregnancy I had no health conditions, was hardly off sick, healthy BMI, don't smoke etc. So I thought I would be low risk. I just feel really sorry for myself and wondering what I'm going to be diagnosed with next. I'm not sure how much more I can take and have cried nearly every day this week. I'm worried I've harmed the baby because of all the health problems, even though scans have all been fine so far. I'm honestly more excited to just not being pregnant soon more than I am the baby arriving. That sounds awful and I'm sure I'll feel different when he arrives. But I've already decided this is likely my only baby because I can't face doing this again. Sorry for my moaning, but I guess I want to ask if anyone else has had a terrible pregnancy but everything turned out ok postpartum and they actually enjoyed the newborn stage in comparison?? Please tell me it gets better.

Hang on in there, it will all be worth it when baby is here.

My last pregnancy with dc3 was horrendous compared to my previous 2 and baby had numerous issues such as ectopic heartbeats, breech, growth scans. I also had bleeds and I did worry more and more as time went on that baby would have something wrong when she was born, or worse, due to all the issues during pregnancy, however DD was born perfect.

I know it's not helpful to say but do try and enjoy what's left of your pregnancy, especially if this will be your last / only one. It's not easy but you've got this mamma and baby will be so so worth it.

I think your friends have been quite lucky. Pregnancy is a rollercoaster for most women - physically, hormonally, emotionally - with a whole range of crazy problems. And your body can seem like a traitor. Who knew so many things can go wrong so quickly, eh? How on earth we evolved to be this way is anyone's guess!

I'm not going to say "everything will be fine" - newborn stage can be difficult. But it is sooooo worth it. Being a mum is the best experience I've ever had - although ask me some days and I'd tell you I regret it! But i don't mean that.

As pp said, hang in there.

I remember in my third pregnancy my mum looking at me saying ‘oh dear, you really don’t do pregnancy well do you?’

A friend visited me in hospital shortly after the third was born. I was less than 24 hours since c section. Still in inflating stockings, hospital gown, catheter, sweaty & disgusting & she said ‘oooh you look SO much better’

I love the newborn stage. Have always hated pregnancy.

good luck OP. It will all be worth it.

I felt a lot like this with my first pregnancy, just couldn't enjoy it at all and was worried I was somehow incapable of having a healthy pregnancy and baby. Kid is now a healthy toddler. Have you asked for any mental health support? That made a massive difference for me both before and after the birth. Your midwife or GP should be able to help.

I felt the same, hated every second of being pregnant and spent the best part of this year feeling horrible

I've now got a 5 week old sleeping on my chest and have my body back. A lot of my symptoms like carpal tunnel and crazy swollen gums stopped the day I gave birth and I'm almost all healed now.

Hang in there, it feels like it'll never end when you're in the thick of it but it does. I'm even open to having another now when I was adamant I'd never do it again, maybe I'm just a glutton for punishment but I think it's just that my beautiful son was worth 9 months of feeling horrendous

Thanks for your reply everyone. It's good to know I'm not the only one! I'm also the last person in my friends/family to have children so I'm being compared to them all the time. And I just feel like a massive inconvenience to my family and work who have to listen to me moaning, help me when I can't do anything for myself, accomodate all the medical appointments etc. I did get help with my mental health early on in pregnancy due to anxiety but I didn't find the talking therapies that useful and again I felt like I was inconvenience and they were in a rush to discharge me.