Found out I was pregnant on Sunday, still in shock.

[SapphireSeptember]

I was on the pill, and I haven't been with my boyfriend very long, (since early September.) Trying to figure out dates and things. I had quite a heavy period about a month and a half ago after running two packs of pills together, so I doubt I was pregnant then (and I had natural periods before that after being with another guy in May and using condoms then. Definitely don't think it's him, both boyfriend and my mum asked.)

It explains a lot though! I've been really grumpy and emotional, kept feeling sick, (thought it was my IBS flaring up because I felt stressed,) and generally not felt right. It was after throwing up the other day I thought I might be pregnant, so I did two tests and both were positive. 🤦🏻‍♀️ Think I took it quite calmly at the time, then phoned my mum and cried a bit.

Main worries are I've had a few drinks recently, I take certain tablets when my IBS flares up, being on the pill can increase the risk of ectopic pregnancy, and I'm an emotional wreck and keep crying. I'd never really planned on being a mum, I've changed my mind about it a few times, and this is really bad timing for both me and my boyfriend. (He's a bit older than me, and has kids from a previous relationship. His adult daughter lives with him and doesn't approve of me.) I'm so undecided.

Breathe! You must be very shocked but it will be okay. You are early enough that you still have options. Give yourself some time to think about what YOU really want - is your gut leaning one way or the other?

I wouldn’t worry about the drinking as lots of people drink before finding out they are pregnant, me included and I have a healthy 16 month old.

Can you make an appointment with your GP to discuss your worries?

Congratulations. I found out I'm pregnant yesterday. Was a big shock. A happy one tho. My only worry is the cost of living but I'm sure we'll manage and make it work. A few drinks won't do any harm. Try not to worry x

Okay, big deep breath.

I really would not worry about just a few drinks
Your GP can tell you if your tablets for IBS could be a concern at all in early pregnancy and whether or not you should continue to take them.
The risk of ectopic pregnancy is still very very low on the pill.

You have options, and there is a pregnancy choices forum here that might help to think about this: www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy_choices

Thank you for your replies. I'm no longer pregnant. I took another test that was negative, and after phoning the doctor I think I'm having a very early miscarriage (he called it a chemical pregnancy) so although I was having symptoms and had two positive tests nothing really happened. Now I'm having what feels like the worst period of my life. I was starting to feel happy about being pregnant, had decided with my boyfriend what we were going to do, got all the supplements I needed, and now it's not happening. I've been crying a lot. It seems mad to be crying over something that was never viable, but it feels like a loss.

@Emmamoo89 Congratulations! I hope it all goes well. Good luck.

Oh @SapphireSeptember what a roller-coaster. Sorry to hear this. Please look after yourself. Br gentle and give yourself time. Make sure you get pain relief, drink plenty of water and go easy.

Thank you @Whataretheodds I took yesterday and today off work sick, just to give myself a bit of time to feel better. I might not feel completely better for a while, but I do feel better than I did yesterday, which is something.