Is it normal to feel this ill? Nearly 11 weeks pg.

[Dewintergarden]

Hello I'm nearly 11weeks pregnant and it is a first much longed for pregnancy and I am just so sick of feeling ill all.of.the.time.
I had nausea, gas, food aversions until week 9 and now I have the worst heartburn, trapped wind and I've just thrown up for the first time due to the heartburn. Is this normal? I have been signed off due to being so poorly. I can't eat anything now, I don't know what to do and I've been crying all day because I'm so fed up. I desperately wanted this baby after so many years of trying and now I'm having such a shitty pregnancy. It seems so unfair. Any tips to navigate this, advice if this is normal or even a handhold would be much appreciated. Thanks!

Sorry your feeling this way, I was exactly the same, it did ease as time went on.
maybe find your way to the HG threads on here, lots of supportive people.

Yes it's normal for some women. Pregnancy, like a lot of things, is a spectrum. You'll get women that don't have any symptoms and others that have such severe symptoms that they need hospital intervention. If you're struggling, get yourself to the GP and try out some antiemetics. Look after yourself

Yep, normal! The only thing that I used to reassure myself with was I felt so dreadful because things were going well and the baby was busy growing, It will pass!

I feel your pain @Dewintergarden and have every sympathy. After experiencing loss previously I wished for symptoms as reassurance everything was ok. I wished too hard and have ended up with HG. I’m 27 weeks and feel awful but plenty of people have it start to fade around 12-20 weeks, I’m just unlucky. What I would say is check out the hyperemesis threads, some really great tricks on managing sickness in there. Go to your doctors and ask for support, if it’s heart burn there is medicine for that and if it’s sickness they can help with that as well. Advocate for yourself. My GP initially turned me away saying I needed to learn to manage the sickness. I was admitted to hospital the next day with severe hydration and ended up in hospital for a few days on a drip. You know your body and what you can handle, don’t let them fob you off.

I have also found that going for additional private scans and seeing them on a screen has given me motivation to put up with it. Seeing why I’m going through this. Hopefully it starts to quieten down for you but even if it doesn’t find ways to manage it. My consultant gave me fantastic advice about pregnancy isn’t and illness but HG is and I need to learn to manage it. Kind of gave me permission in my own head to stop fighting it and work with it. Before that I felt like a rubbish pregnant person as I wasn’t managing. I now rest in a morning and work from home in the afternoon as I didn’t want to go off sick long term, I found a balance. It’s my way of managing it and it really helps with the sickness but allows me to be me some hours of the day at work. I also don’t eat or drink anything in a morning until my stomach has settled and then go for it in an afternoon. 😂 Little but often works a treat. You’ll find a love for beige food and will work out what ones trigger your heartburn over time.

Its crap but take each day as it comes, accept being pregnant isn’t the dream that social media makes out and find ways you feel comfortable managing it. And smile nicely when every person you speak to recommends ginger and tells you how they suffered with morning sickness for a day then swear after you’ve walked away. 😄

Go to your GP and insist on anti nausea meds. I got cyclizine and it was a game changer.

Thank you all so much for your kind messages and solidarity. I contacted Pregnancy Sickness Support and I was sent so much helpful information specifically medication and some tips and tricks. Unfortunately, I'm in the process of moving GP as my GP is absolutely shocking. I have also found that the midwifery team aren't much help unless you are bleeding which thankfully I am not. I've managed to keep down some toast and milk today, but I'm going to try and get an appointment and go on medication. I was stressing on Monday as my symptoms completely disappeared and now they've come back with a vengeance. I hope I have an easier 2nd trimester but I have seen lots of threads saying that this isn't always the case, I just really want to enjoy some of this pregnancy as I have dreamed of it for so long. I have no quality of life at the moment.

I had a similar struggle both times round, but it eased around 16 weeks and it was then a lot easier. It’s nice when the bump is there too, because I felt a lot more connected to the baby then. I was weird about food throughout though - but later on there were things I couldn’t get enough of as much as things I couldn’t stand.