Hi all, looking for a bit of advice.
My manager is really nice but sometimes he can be difficult. We are a team of 7 and every time he is informed about a pregnancy, he gets a bit of a cob on just at the prospect of his staff having maternity/paternity.
For example: two other women in the office a few years ago, he wouldn’t speak to them for weeks when they informed him they were pregnant. Another was one of the men in our team letting his manager know in advance when his wife was having her planned c-section and the manager tried to kick off ‘passive aggressively’ about how men do not need to take paternity leave as a way of making him feel guilty for taking his entitled two weeks off. (This was almost every day 4 weeks leading up to his paternity.)
When I was pregnant in 2020, he didn’t speak to me for 3 weeks until I had spoke to another member of staff saying I felt uncomfortable. Then he told all the managers across our department in a meeting and was acting all nice about it (but he had told everyone before I was even 12 weeks!)
I found out a couple of weeks ago that I’m pregnant and already was getting a bit sick at 4 weeks (earlier than last time.) My mum has said I’m probably best to tell him sooner rather than later if I’m already sick (I’m now 5 weeks) but I’m terrified of him getting annoyed with me again. It makes a really horrible atmosphere and it’s not only me that he has been like that with (I suppose I should consider that a positive that it’s more of a reflection of his attitude than mine)
i don’t want to fall out with him either because other than his weird attitude to being a parent/family friendly policies, he is actually alright. He is quite reasonable with other things like if we ever need to come in later or go home early etc. I don’t know what to do…