looking for some advice feeling quite upset but not sure if I am being selfish...
I am due at the start of January, I have a 2.5 year old already, I had asked my mum to be my birthing partner along with my partner and my dad to watch my daughter whilst I was in labour, this was all fine and arranged until they invited me to a lodge over new year for 5 days 1.5hours away from my home and hospital I'll give birth in, I said no as don't want to be that far away from home
The lodge holds 20 so aunts uncles cousins going and there will be drinking as it's for the new year
I am now worried my mum won't be there during labour and I'll have no one to watch my daughter, my partners mum stays a while away from us and she isn't confident in driving but I'm sure if we asked her she would 100% sort something out, I have made a back up plan for my papa to watch my daughter ( he stays close so can be here quickly) But he is 75 he's fit and able for his age but I don't know how long I'll be in labour for and if he will manage, he has watched my daughter lots of times for a couple hours and taken her to park ect but never over night
feeling a bit let down by my mum as was hooping she would be there as I'm feeling really anxious about birth, my partner is not good with medical settings be nesrkt fainted when I was getting bloods done... ( he is incredibly supportive though)
Am I being selfish?
just feeling upset it was arranged and now there's a 90% possibility they won't be there as there far away and will most likely be drinking and wouldn't trust someone driving whilst they have been drinking with my daughter in the car :(