Excessive drinking in early pregnancy

[Charlieblue22]

I have just found out I’m 7 weeks pregnant. It was unplanned and I had no idea - I haven’t been taking any vitamins, been eating all the wrong foods and the thing that worries me the most, I’ve had a really heavy month of drinking (lots of birthdays etc, I’m not normally a massive drinker). I know lots of people will reassure me that they did the same and the baby was fine - anyone been in a position where it wasn’t fine? My main concern would be a birth defect and it’s playing a big part in my consideration of terminating the pregnancy

Anyone?

I was exactly in the same position as you when I found out I was pregnant. Anxiety was taking over and I was seriously considering termination while googling everything about drinking in early pregnancy. I even called a doctor and told them that I am pregnant and have been drinking quite heavily and my worries about it. Doctor reassured me that while it is not advised to drink, there are so many women in the same situation and as long as you don’t drink anything from the day you find out it is highly unlikely that there will be anything wrong with the baby. I now have a perfect 9 month old son with absolutely no health problems, developing perfectly. When I look at him I can’t even believe that I considered termination when I just found out. I know exactly how you feel, but be assured that it is highly likely your baby will turn out just perfect with no health problems and everything will be fine.

I drank heavily before I found out I was pregnant and I'm not normally much of a drinker either. Lots of shots, vodka etc, to the point where I threw up because I'd drank way too much. My daughter is now 7 and perfectly healthy ☺️

You seem to be strongly considering a termination and looking for people to tell you their baby's weren't okay, almost as if it'll give you good reason in your head to terminate? No one can decide for you but I honestly don't think what you've drank is any real cause for concern. A girl at work didn't know she was pregnant until 6 months and she'd been out drinking most weekends and her baby was fine too. If you don't think you're in a position right now to cope with a baby both financially, mentally etc then you need to weigh everything up and ultimately make a decision. But yeah, alcohol wise I don't think you need to worry too much ☺️

It’s unlikely anything would have passed through to the baby at that stage. You can have a termination for whatever reason you like.

Thank you all so much for your help. I think you’re right, I probably am looking for an “excuse” to terminate. I have young children and have just started a new job. My partner is saying all the right things, that he will support me whatever I feel is best - but that makes is harder as it’s really on my shoulders! I don’t think I can handle another baby right now and I know that’s a good enough reason to terminate, I just feel guilty and guess I’d feel better if I had alcohol damage as a reason beyond my control. Thanks again for your support