Am I overreacting?

[Newname384]

NC as outing.

This morning MIL sent me a ‘flat stomach’ abdominal workout video safe for pregnancy & post-partum and it’s really pissed me off

For context, I’m 37 weeks pregnant with my first child. Pre-pregnancy I was a size 8/10 but made little effort to maintain that, rarely working out and eating what I wanted in moderation, I have made absolutely no negative comments about my ‘new body’ nor expressed any desire to get my ‘old body’ back.

I have a really good relationship with MIL, she’s very kind and sensitive so I don’t think she’s sent it maliciously or with any ill-intention and she’d likely be devastated to know that it’s annoyed & upset me but I’m just so annoyed that people think it’s acceptable to make comments/suggestions about my body.

Do I say anything or just leave it? Maybe I’m just hormonal and overreacting?

Did it come with a message? If not, tempting to reply "did you mean to send this to me?".

Just leave it. If you sense it wasn’t sent with malicious intent, ignore it.
If she should raise the issue again you can say, “I appreciate your concern but I’m not looking for advice or comment. Thanks.” (friendly smile)

This is also quite good though.

Start ignoring and distancing this is only going to get worse.

Why do you say that?

its a bit odd to be sending random exercise videos to your dil when 37 weeks pregnant, sounds like she lacked thought process on this.

if you'd suggested a class or wanting to exercise it'd be more appropriate

perhaps just email back

hi, thanks for the email but this isn't the sort of thing I'm interested in

Start ignoring and distancing this is only going to get worse

thats not pleasant way to behave in this instance

just say no thanks, communicate and manage the relationship

If she's not malicious she might have just thought you would be interested or saw something about pregnancy and she thought she would share to show she's thinking of you. Not very sensitive to modern tastes I agree but I would be tempted just to ignore it.

I would be tempted by this route, to try to nip it in the bud. Her lack of thinking and empathy is rather embarrassing

Sorry but i think this is passive aggressive. It doesn't address the issue & she'll be baffled.

I'd brush it off. You seem to have a really positive body image & attitude. For all you know her DS caused her to be very self conscious about her body & she pee'd herself for months..people are often motivated by their own experiences.

Trust me, if she's generally kind & you get on well then i wouldn't make a thing of it. You'll need her when the baby comes!
If she persists then just say you're not interested in a polite way.