Reassure me

[KEvLA]

DH family are full of boys.
So when we had our second child, a girl, everybody was delighted. I told my DH my MIL was probably a bit disappointed that it wasn't my SIL who had a DD.
My SIL found out that she was pregnant (third baby and have 2DS. 3rd DD - surprise again.
I'm so excited too - girl cousin for my DD 💕
My MIL has declared her favourite GC is DH nephew - SIL DS.
My MIL is retired but doesn't make any effort to see our DS & DD. Even though she was desperately wanting a GD.
MIL has the GD she wanted - her DD baby girl.
Am I right to be cautious that her DD, baby G would take priority over my DD?

I'd like to add, I've already discussed, my DH family and my own family about wanting 3DC, No preference on gender - just 3.

My MIL remarked that I have DS and DD, I should be grateful and why do I need more! Found it quite offensive tbh lol. However because my SIL has 2DS it's acceptable.

Thoughts ?

Your MILs views on your family size are irrelevant tbh, it's only you and your husband's views and the practical considerations that are relevant.

It's not okay for MIL to state that a grandchild is her favourite, it's hurtful to all the others. However, you probably are not going to be able to change her preferences (nor should you try to). Think about what boundaries you will have (eg we cannot let MIL tell our kids she likes their cousin more) and how you will respond if that happens (first DH tells her why it's not okay, if she keeps going she loses contact with the kids).

Might be worth asking Mumsnet to move this thread to relationships as it's not really about pregnancy