Hello,
I'm reaching out here to find friends and hear of others experiences. I'm not in a position where I'm close to my family or live near my one close friend I do have to be able to discuss anything with.
Tmi warning cause I know this is an overshare but-
I'm a recovering cancer patient. I had a tumour in my pelvic area, had chemo and radio. Uhm my doctor has called it unusual because I was being told I was in menopause at one point and it was looking like I couldn't have children. I was about to have a dexa scan because my bone density isn't too great but I had a funny feeling. Basically with everything that's happen my partner and I decided to not be careful because although it was being pushed gently that I couldn't they hadn't said it wouldn't happen yet. We both wanted a child in the future. Tried not to think about it too much to be honest though with the possibility of me not. Was actually in the process of arranging to have my eggs counted although I've had my ovaries poked at before 😅
So by some dumb luck I've found out I'm pregnant. My dating scan is on the 22nd, so soon. Can't help feeling worried and anxious. There was a lot of possibilities that could go wrong that obviously they just have to tell me in case. I know people go on to have children sometimes after treatment. Although there's only 1 case of someone who had the same type of cancer and treatment as me that successfully went on to have a kid, they were younger than me and the gap from treatment was longer. I feel like it's hard to have a baby normally anyway and somehow this is more pressure to think of things that could go wrong. When do you start to feel safe being pregnant ? Does that even happen 😂 When do you 'feel' them being there ? What comforted you the most when you did have doubts ?
Has anyone had their previous health condition affect their pregnancy ? How did you cope ?
Thanks for taking the time to read this and good luck with your journey too x