In-Laws Visiting

[bertiebelle]

I'm due in April and this is already on my mind. My husbands family live around a 3 hour drive from my husband and I. Of course they will want to visit our baby when he/she is born. I absolutely don't mind as i get on well with his siblings and parents. However, How do I tell them they can come, but not stay overnight? I know my MIL will be helpful. She will bring a meal and help with any house chores. I just do not want people in our home for that long. Same with his 3 siblings - welcome to come but not stay over.

Send them a message or email saying how much you are looking forward to them coming and meeting the little one......"here's a few places to stay locally, since you can appreciate we will have a bit too much on to have overnight visitors!"

And actually, your husband could just tell them this.

Get your DH to send them a list of local places to stay for when they come to visit.

Just get DH to tell them! He can say that if they want to come early on and stay for a few days to meet the baby that's great, but it won't work to have people staying in the house when the baby is tiny so they'll need to factor in a hotel or something. Otherwise, if that's not an option, you guys will take the baby to them when he/she is a bit bigger.
They'll totally understand.

But, you might feel totally different when the baby gets here so if it was me I would just leave it until the baby is here and then make plans. If they're decent people they won't expect to stay in your house when you're just home from hospital with a newborn.

Wait until they mention coming to visit and then ask which hotel they’re staying at. Don’t start the conversation this early unless they do. It doesn’t need to be a big deal, just have a clear consistent response when it comes up.

Thanks all! will get the husband to do it! my mum said they can stay at their house as well. Luckily they all get on well!

Give them details of local hotels and b&bs. Encourage them to visit but suggest they sleep elsewhere giving you some space

Don't worry about this now as it will only put a dampener on enjoying the rest of your pregnancy. When they talk about arranging a visit just simply say
"yes we would love for you to meet the baby. Here are a list of local hotels for you to stay in so you don't have to travel there and back all in one day and plus it be nice to see you for a couple of days". That will give them the hint. If they say can we not stay with you, say... "unfortunately our lives will be a bit up in the air with a new baby and no sleep so we won't be welcoming overnight visitors for a while"