Age 36 - 12dpo - positive test!? Can this be real? Petrified of chemical and no symptoms!

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I have a 10 luteal phase so I guess technically period is 2 days late and we've been trying every other day this cycle so I know this shouldn't be shocking but I'm so shocked and strangely not excited, just petrified of it ending in chemical or MMC.

I've got severely diminished ovarian reserve (0.8pmol AMH in Feb 2021) and had been doing egg freezing for the last year or so and just generally convinced it would not happen naturally. I've wanted this desperately for years (albeit only been in a position to try since Feb 2022)

Did a clear blue this morning - digital - and it says pregnant. I also had one of those leftover sticks from a clearblue fertility monitor (but not the monitor itself which supposedly reads them!) and got two lines, although one is quite faint.

I need to get more tests to check, I know.. but one of my friends has just had a miscarriage at 11 weeks and another had a chemical a few weeks ago but she had super sore boobs etc. I have practically nothing - maybe a hint of achey boobs the other day or so but less than pre period! I have been quite gassy if that's a symptom? I feel sick too now ha but I'm sure that's the shock.

So, so scared it's going to go wrong. How do I relax? Is it natural to not have symptoms so early, but then have a positive test? I'm 36 too so knew my time was running out... just can't quite believe it..

Should I expect more symptoms? When do I call doctor etc? I feel like I need to wait and make sure it's not a chemical...

Hello! Congratulations 👏 that is a definite positive. I understand your worry given everything you have been through. At this stage you simply cant know for certain how things will turn out, which is so hard but try to let go and enjoy the fact you are currently pregnant and think positive 💕
In terms of symptoms, v v early still and v normal not to have any. If it helps, I sadly had 3 MC this year and all 3 I had v sore boobs but they all resulted in early losses (2 at 5 weeks, 1 at 6 weeks). I then got pregnant again and had absolutely no symptoms that time, I was convinced I wasn't pregnant and only did the test as hadn't had a period again since the last MC and was wondering what was happening. I estimated I was about 11 do when I tested and a clear positive came up! I didn't get sore boobs for another couple weeks and I was also still breastfeeding DD 1 at the time so was v surprised no pain. The nausea hit me at 6/7 weeks and was crippling till 14 weeks so there is time 😅 I'll be 20 weeks on Fri and everything seems to be going well this rimw. So basically what I'm saying is, no symptoms is fine at this stage! And yes being gassy can be a symptom as progesterone slows four digestion down.

My advice is don't test loads - maybe get some first response tests and test every 2-3 days if you want to check the line is progressing but don't fall into the trap of testing every day it will drive you crazy. Call doctor to let them know - your first midwife appointment won't be till about 8 weeks most likely. You could book an early scan given the history for reassurance perhaps, but best to wait till 7 weeks or so.

Good luck!! X

thank you for replying.. I can't believe it and I'm scared to get my hopes up. I literally only joined mumsnet a few years ago to go on the infertility boards and get advice for egg freezing/diminished ovarian reserve etc so it feels like it can't possibly be true..

Need to find a way to relax and not stress myself out or that's just going to make it not stick :(

Sorry about your losses.

Good to know that it's ok if I don't have symptoms yet and maybe they'll come - although I've literally felt so sick all morning since I did the test! I think it's shock! Also (TMI) I've had a bit of thrush the last few days and did wonder if it could be hormonal changes if I'd conceived but thought I was just kidding myself!

Do I call the doctor now? I don't have to wait until.. I dunno.. just longer!!? It seems crazy to be in this position ha but also only 12dpo so do people really tell them so early?

I'm at work now and literally cannot concentrate on a thing!!