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Pixie18 · 2022-11-15T18:51:26+00:00

after 8 months of trying i had a very traumatic ectopic pregnancy which ended with emergency surgery to remove the pregnancy and also one of my tubes . I an replaying the whole event in my head 24/7 and also terrified what will happen in the future and it’s driving me absolutely mental. Wondering if there is anyone thats gone through anything similar x

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Pixie18 · 13/12/2022 15:50

akakt · 13/12/2022 11:46

Hello everyone,

I just wanted to give some hope as I know that’s all I searched for. I had surgery for a ruptured ectopic in October and am currrently pregnant again. We tried after my first period and were extremely blessed for it to happen again. I am waiting for my 6.5 weeks early scan on Friday and I am obviously extremely nervous, but pregnancy can happen again, hopefully everything will go well.

I am 27 and had no issues to cause the ectopic, just “bad luck” as they say, but it was the worst thing I’ve ever had to go through in my life.

pregnancy loss is a terrible terrible thing
🤍

Thank you. Can i ask what advice you were given in terms of trying again ? I am nervous to start x

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Pixie18 · 13/12/2022 15:51

Yutes · 04/12/2022 19:29

Sorry to revive a thread from last month, but I also had an ectopic pregnancy with emergency surgery and tube removal a few months ago.

still feeling a bit knocked for six tbh!

my periods are still all over the place, which is really disappointing. Just popping in to say, I know, I understand @Pixie18

I was very worried about subsequent pregnancies also being ectopic but the fertility doctor I spoke to, after all was said and done, said it only raised the risk just marginally and that I could be monitored next pregnancy on that basis as well.

Thank you ❤️

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akakt · 13/12/2022 16:24

of course please ask away! When I was at the early pregnancy unit finding out about my ectopic the midwife told me I could start trying again after 1 cycle, I also received lots of leaflets from the hospital and in it it says you can try again after you’ve had 1 period, only if you feel ready of course and this was based on having surgery, if you have the drug then you would have to wait 3 months.

I have read lots online that say to wait 3 months or 2 cycles, however my periods were quite regular before and my first period after ectopic lasted the same amount of days as they would pre ectopic.

I know it’s hard but I would say try and wait until you’ve have Atleast 1 period. It’s hard when your just waiting for it to come back, a lot of things online say it can take 6 weeks but I was lucky enough for it to return 3 weeks after the ectopic, but everyone is different, so don’t feel pressure if it doesn’t return quickly x

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Pixie18 · 13/12/2022 19:36

akakt · 13/12/2022 16:24

of course please ask away! When I was at the early pregnancy unit finding out about my ectopic the midwife told me I could start trying again after 1 cycle, I also received lots of leaflets from the hospital and in it it says you can try again after you’ve had 1 period, only if you feel ready of course and this was based on having surgery, if you have the drug then you would have to wait 3 months.

I have read lots online that say to wait 3 months or 2 cycles, however my periods were quite regular before and my first period after ectopic lasted the same amount of days as they would pre ectopic.

I know it’s hard but I would say try and wait until you’ve have Atleast 1 period. It’s hard when your just waiting for it to come back, a lot of things online say it can take 6 weeks but I was lucky enough for it to return 3 weeks after the ectopic, but everyone is different, so don’t feel pressure if it doesn’t return quickly x

Thank you , i had my period about 4.5 weeks after it happened. I will have a think . Wishing you all the best

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PeppermintChoc · 13/12/2022 19:39

I’m so sorry for your loss OP. I have been through the same, ruptured and lost a tube. I have a healthy little 18m old now.

NigellasMicrowave · 13/12/2022 20:05

I’m really sorry for your loss, too OP. This was me 2 years ago, although I had methotrexate and kept my tube. I was very fortunate to conceive 8 months later (5 cycles after being allowed to try again) and an early scan showed the baby was in the right place and I had ovulated from the other side. She’s now in my arms.

Those 8 months were amongst the most painful of my life and everyone around me was having children which seemed, at the time, to be very cruel. Ectopic pregnancy is so difficult because it isn’t just the loss of a pregnancy but highlights your own mortality and both are very hard to live with.

I found a lot of comfort on the TTC after an ectopic pregnancy thread on here, it was hugely supportive and as the women became pregnant, I was absolutely thrilled by each good news story because it served to remind me that it was possible to go on to have a healthy pregnancy and helped me maintain a more positive outlook. It’s worth having a look and kickstarting it if it has gone a bit quiet - ectopic pregnancies are more common than I think most people realise. I was lucky enough to receive counselling from the hospital where I was treated, which was very helpful.

I went to see a gynaecologist after, in search of an answer - and I couldn’t get an answer why I’d had an ectopic - there’s still so much they don’t know about that stage of pregnancy. However, she did tell me that every pregnancy is different, which gave me a huge amount of comfort. It became a bit of a mantra as I was trying. By total coincidence, she was the obstetrician doing rounds the morning I had my daughter.

All the best of luck to you OP. Ectopics are deeply traumatic but it is definitely possible to go on to have a healthy pregnancy after - I know it might seem impossible right now - but it really is. Don’t lose sight of that xx

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Pixie18 · 13/12/2022 20:06

PeppermintChoc · 13/12/2022 19:39

I’m so sorry for your loss OP. I have been through the same, ruptured and lost a tube. I have a healthy little 18m old now.

Thank you, you think these things will never happen to you. Then the affect it has consumes you. Will try to stay optimistic x

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PeppermintChoc · 13/12/2022 20:07

Pixie18 · 13/12/2022 20:06

Thank you, you think these things will never happen to you. Then the affect it has consumes you. Will try to stay optimistic x

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You do. I became totally consumed by TTC afterwards.

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Pixie18 · 13/12/2022 20:09

NigellasMicrowave · 13/12/2022 20:05

I’m really sorry for your loss, too OP. This was me 2 years ago, although I had methotrexate and kept my tube. I was very fortunate to conceive 8 months later (5 cycles after being allowed to try again) and an early scan showed the baby was in the right place and I had ovulated from the other side. She’s now in my arms.

Those 8 months were amongst the most painful of my life and everyone around me was having children which seemed, at the time, to be very cruel. Ectopic pregnancy is so difficult because it isn’t just the loss of a pregnancy but highlights your own mortality and both are very hard to live with.

I found a lot of comfort on the TTC after an ectopic pregnancy thread on here, it was hugely supportive and as the women became pregnant, I was absolutely thrilled by each good news story because it served to remind me that it was possible to go on to have a healthy pregnancy and helped me maintain a more positive outlook. It’s worth having a look and kickstarting it if it has gone a bit quiet - ectopic pregnancies are more common than I think most people realise. I was lucky enough to receive counselling from the hospital where I was treated, which was very helpful.

I went to see a gynaecologist after, in search of an answer - and I couldn’t get an answer why I’d had an ectopic - there’s still so much they don’t know about that stage of pregnancy. However, she did tell me that every pregnancy is different, which gave me a huge amount of comfort. It became a bit of a mantra as I was trying. By total coincidence, she was the obstetrician doing rounds the morning I had my daughter.

All the best of luck to you OP. Ectopics are deeply traumatic but it is definitely possible to go on to have a healthy pregnancy after - I know it might seem impossible right now - but it really is. Don’t lose sight of that xx

Exactly- i can almost handle losing a baby. Its the trauma of the day that’s staying with me and the not knowing what’s next thats driving me mental . Thank you for your kind words x

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outnumbered77 · 13/12/2022 20:09

I lost a tube many years ago and went on to have two more babies. Didn't seem to affect my fertility at all. Remember surgeon saying that the egg would find its way to the remaining tube. I did always push for early scans though.

Nicki1992 · 10/02/2023 21:52

Hello guys I’m new here i found out 2 weeks again I had an ectopic pregnancy I was 2-3 weeks pregnant with my first baby and had surgery to remove how long will it take for me to get pregnant again

akakt · 11/02/2023 08:21

Hi Nicki

i am so sorry you had to go through this, it really is awful, but trust me when I say you will get through it.

everyone is different so no one unfortunately can give you a timescale but I would wait until your first period comes back and then try again if you are ready. You will probably have a bleed in the days after your surgery which isn’t your period. And then it can take a few weeks for your period to come back.

I was successful in getting pregnant again and so are many others, so just keep faith x

Nicki1992 · 11/02/2023 08:49

Thank u it’s been so hard to deal with I’m so heart broken I ask myself what do I do wrong

akakt · 12/02/2023 08:56

Hi Nicki,

please don’t blame yourself, it’s a really shitty thing that sometimes can happen for no reason at all. It’s going to be a hard few weeks months or however long it takes you to feel your new kind of normal but I promise one day you will wake up and chose to be positive, but for now take all the time you need.

sending hugs