4.3 weeks pregnant and waiting for it to feel real.

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So I tested positive quite early...just over 3 weeks gone. So I didn't believe it. I tested again the next day with digital tests which came back positive. So I told my partner. He was buzzing we have only been trying a few months and it's our first. But we both were aware it was early. I contacted doctors online and asked if we could have a blood test to confirm as it was early and no symptoms. They said no but to just test again in a week. So the day after my period was due we tested again and strong positives all round.
We were extatic.
So today I ring the midwife to book first appointment and they said "no its too soon so much could happen if these Early weeks so to save registering and then having to cancel I have to call again next week.

So I'm here. Very little symptoms... Just the tingly nipples... Like I feel them but not too painful. Tiredness and random on off nausea but not a lot.

The midwife has made me think about what could happen between now and first meeting.. (tho trying not to stress)

Does anyone kinda feel like "iv been waiting for this day my whole life but literally can't tell anyone, don't feel much different, and won't have my first appointment for maybe a month or more!"
Almost makes me worry it isn't actually happening. Sounds silly aye

Nope, that's definitely the feeling I have had! Although sort of opposite situation, didn't find out until I was about 9 weeks, but still feels odd not telling anyone and waiting for various appointments and scans. I'm hoping once 12 week scan is done and screening results are back it will feel more real 🤷‍♀️ but definitely lots of waiting and worrying about what if's over here.

Congratulations! Don’t wish for more symptoms… morning sickness kicks in between 5 and 7 weeks - hope you don’t get it!

I also tested positive really early. I'm only 3+5 and I've already known for a few days. It was the same when I was pregnant with my first. These first few weeks feel like you're in limbo. It's so hard but just need to try to take it a day at a time.

I keep saying this to my partner. Just feels like without the first appointment absolutely confirming pregnancy I'm still doubting myself just because it's a DREAM come true to be on this journey. But you are sooo right I'm hoping to just stay as I am. Hahaha though feeling very very tired a lot already

Yes indeed. I first found out myself at 3.4weeks but didn't believe it lol then next day confirmed it enough to tell partner. But we both like..
. Now what? Hahaha
It's mental i work with children I see pregnancy all the time but you just picture the big bump lol not all this part. Thank you for the advice. I'm doing my best 😁😁

I'm 17 + 2 at the moment and it's only just beginning to feel real, just started to feel flutters

That first trimester is tough both mentally and physically (nausea etc) you will feel more comfortable as time goes on xxx

Also it is lots of waiting, but it soon comes! I think you can register with the midwife at 6 weeks and your first appointment is at 8 weeks :) (in UK)

We booked a private scan for 7 weeks just to be sure all looked okay with baby and after that first scan it feels like it's gone quickly now I'm here, but slow at the time! Xxx

Congratulations! Try it to worry what might happen / go wrong, you can cross that bridge if you have to but it's more likely that things will be fine.
I think I booked my midwife appointments a bit later than 4.3 weeks to be honest, a lot of people wouldn't even realise by now as it's so early, but enjoy all those feelings you're going through and start reading up on what to eat/ not eat, vitamins etc to help your body produce what it needs for your growing baby.

Thank you for your message. Time seems to just slow down hahahaha iv known now for 11days and feels like months hahaha plus not telling family until Christmas.
Gonna ring the midwife again a week tomorrow as will be 6 weeks then.
Nipples are sore but not horrendous. Nausea is not too bad or I'm just getting used to it lol but I'm TIRED. I work with children and noticed I "FEEL IT" when I pick them up so iv already adjusted it and don't but feel like people at work are noticing... They may not be.lol

Cant wait for first scan! Do you hear the heartbeat

I know what you mean. I also tested crazy early just after 3 weeks and then had a big bleed, thinking it was all over. Now 9 weeks and definitely still pregnant.

I was advised at the EPU when I was around 5 weeks to book with my midwife asap as they can get busy (depending on the trust) and as the booking appointment sets in motion the dating scan appointment, I shouldn't be waiting too long.

Oh and just to warn you, the first midwife appointment won't necessarily "confirm" your pregnancy. They don't necessarily do another test there, they just chat through your medical history etc.

Why not book an early private scan? They recommend you wait until atleast 6 weeks but best to check with your local places. Doubt you’ll hear the heartbeat. I didn’t hear it at the private or NHS scans and was told they don’t listen to it. Heard it at my 25 week midwife appointment for the first time.

Hey hey all. Thank you so much for your replies. Whilst we are not telling anyone it's nice to just chat things with people who are or have experienced similar things.

I'm 5 weeks today and so far just boobs that feel bruised when I pick kids up and work. Very tired still. And a travel-sickness feeling most of the day every day. First bit of constipation todya too.

I was thinking about an early scan but I'm thinking if that's just due to impatience then I'm gonna risk a LOT of private scans through the pregnancy hahahaha however my head thinks the idea of a scan that says "yup there is a baby in there" would be very reasurrint. So weird just relying on a stick and wee... And some symptoms which could also be ANYTHING else ha

I want to be that chilled pregnant mum who goes with the flow. But iv dreamt of this day for sooo many years it's insane.

Was gonna wait til next Fri which will be 6 weeks before ringing the midwife so they can't say no again lol but might do it on the weds where I'm closer to 6 weeks like they suggested.

It's so crazy how iv only ever dreamt of being pregnant and now I am it feels like not much has changed... Yet hahahahahah

Congratulations. I found out this early aswell and my baby girl is 10 months now! Enjoy the relaxing and long lies before you know it they will be here! Also my midwife didn't do a phone appointment with me until 8 weeks and wasn't seen until 10 weeks where I am its so annoying!

It's so odd.
Part of any service one must understand the main point... Ladies need reassurance especially if it's their first time.

There is too much info on the Internet that overlaps between a safe / dangers in pregnancy. Surely to keep mum calm to start a positive journey is to just get together confirm that this miracle is actually happening and feel like the ball is rolling lol.

At the same time I know the world doesn't revolve around me. I just wish it would in this case hahahahahaha

Without sounding too harsh, it does make sense not being seen too early and being seen at this point won’t stop a heartbreak from happening. You’ve got a positive test and that is about as much as can be done right now to confirm it is happening. Unfortunately the NHS are stretched to the max. We are so lucky to have the service we do for free. You could go private for a blood test if you wanted some early reassurance. You are too early for anything to be seen on a scan. Get yourself booked for a private scan at 6 weeks.

Just try and chill and relax (easier said than done I know and also struggled in the early days) your appointments will come round before you know it x

If you scan too early you won’t see anything and this will just add to your stress

Oh ladies I know. I hope people who read these know this is just my place to vent what is in my head so I don't bore the other half with it all hahahaha.

I do believe I am pregnant. Got the sore boobs. Todya is day one of lots of peeing hahahaha. Tired and sicky all day. It just doesn't feel real. Or fear it isn't and I'm just interpreting it as pregnant. But like u say I got about 6 positive tests last ones being 1 day after period and nice strong line.

I just read "when you get positive test contact gp straight away get it confirmed and they can get you with a midwife" but then docs wouldn't get me in to confirm and midwife said too soon and I felt a bit silly doing what I was told and contacting straight away lol.

I think it's the giddiness of it all. Coz as the days go on I am feeling calmer and calmer and it's becoming a little more "yea I'm pregnant" rather than "omg I pregnant... I think I am... Yea I am... Well hope so" lol I'm listening to my body rather than panicking.

Thanks so much and loving the thread it's keeping me calmer and distracted

This might be long but it might be useful too.. I found out early too a week ago, I am now 4w5d today and stopped testing a few days ago as it was panicking me. First baby, no idea what to expect and too much googling got me into a stressful few days. My period is 5 days late and its the only thing about me that's ever on time for anything. Line progression isn't for everyone. A positive is a positive.

I have a wave of sickness about 6am the last 2 days, no vomit yet.. But it's certainly abnormal for me.
I have very sensitive boobs, which seem to be growing by the second, my appitie has dissappeared and I'm shattered. Plus the odd moment of heartburn which is great. But I don't feel pregnant. I registered with a midwife the Monday after I found out and they advised me they would call me at 6 weeks to get me an appointment booked, I'm in the UK. I also then got panicked but after a bit of googling, up until about 7/8 weeks you can't really see anything anyways!

Finding out early has been really hard, but we are all here for each other, vent, get thoughts out that seem silly once written down or that need some validation. I've found a lot of comfort here the past week. But I'm sticking with what my body is doing and not everything I read online is going to apply to me.

Hope you're okay and wishing you a sticky bean ✨😊

Thank you for your reply. So many of my friends and family found out either later than I did or even didn't know until a routine hospital test for procedure highlighted it.

In a way I like that We know. We are trying to just enjoy and process it as a couple. Then when we tell everyone we will have already adjusted to the idea (even tho we were planning it) ... But yea finding out so early leaves a lot time where you need patience.. (which I lack haha)

I feel nauseous throught the day and a bit gassy but nothing crippling. Today we were in Wales and driving back til now I felt ILL. So going to bed.

Gonna ring midwives on Wed and see if we can get the ball rolling as will be 5 weeks and 5 days then

I agree this is a great site just to vent and chat in a safe place :)

Huge congratulations on your pregnancy can journey it together haha

im so glad it isn’t just me! I’m 4 weeks and 2 days - I feel you. Called to make my appts and was disheartened to be told leave it another week as things could happen…. Already had a molar pregnancy and a miscarriage. Brought me down to earth with a thud!