'Ours baby'

[emily8889]

Hi,

Just wondering if anyone here has any thoughts on an ‘ours’ baby and would you recommend?

I have two children, age, 3 and 6 and my partner has three, age: 8, 10, 12.

My children are with us 50% of the time and his are every other weekend and a lot in the holidays. He is 43 and I’m early 30s. Luckily, all our five kids get on and love each other and I would say current family dynamics are strong and good.

I do love the idea of an ‘us’ baby for many reasons:

1. Having a child that is ours.
2. One day the thought of of having grandchildren together.
3. Going through the experience with him.

But I can see the negatives too, such as:

1. Doing all the baby stuff again when we are both out the other side.

1. Worried this will have an effect on our relationship .

1. Loosing precious ‘us’ time

1. He’s a bit older, so being an older dad and staring again.

1. How the children might feel.

I really don’t know….but I am still early 30s and I have these phases of still wanting another one and feeling really broody. My partner is more against that for it, but we have quite a lot of unprotected sex and he says, well if it happens, it happens- I will be there for you and we will sort it out together and I will love both of you. However because of the amount of children we have and his age, he’s not really ‘for’ it.

I just wondered what other peoples’ thoughts were on this…..

Thanks!

What about your finances? Can you comfortably afford another one? I think your existing kids would be annoyed if another baby means cutting back their existing activities etc… when my aunt and uncle were expecting my cousin who was 9 at the time was a bit annoyed with having another sibling because it will thin out the resources (money and parents time)

'OURS BABY' ? bloody hell. kids are not shiny new toys. Put your time and effort into the ones you have and make a happy loving blended 'OURS FAMILY' with them all.

Seriously OP how long have you even been together? Can you afford SIX KIDS?!