Finding out the gender

[Ldougal92]

I am WAY off needing to decide this but just pre-thinking. Who decided to find out the gender? So torn on whether to wait or not x

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We waited until birth and it was lovely. My husband told me it was a boy and we loved using he for the first time when we were waiting to be discharged throughout the day in hospital. We'll definitely wait again next time if we're lucky enough to have a second.

I had a pretty traumatic labour but found focussing on the fact we now knew the sex and had a name got me through the stitches etc

We found out all three times.

Found out in advance I mean!

I found out both times (DS is 2 and second DS will be along in February). I had no preference, but I'm just WAY too impatient. Plus knowing the sex helped me bond more for some reason.

DH and I have both times taken a middle ground where we have found out but not told anyone else. DH was keen to find out, I would have been happy to wait (I think, though I'm more impatient than I thought...). It's meant that it doesn't become a huge 'thing' with people buying you all pink / blue stuff and also is quite nice to have as a little secret between us. Also the first time we had a slight preference (which we didn't get) so it gave us the chance to prepare mentally a bit more. Second time we didn't really care which it was but decided to do the same anyway!

We did as I am a planner by nature and wanted things as organised as possible and was buying in bigger sizes etc so was good to know

I waited all three times to find out. I just love the anticipation, the wondering and that moment after all your hard work where you find out what you have is just amazing. I always felt that someone simply saying "it's a boy/girl" at a scan and then you just walk out a bit of an anticlimax! And I loved texting people to let them know when baby was born and whether it was a boy or a girl

My Gran said to me it's all very odd this finding out the sex business because you " can't wait". So I thought I'd wait as women have had to for millennia and absolutely loved the surprise! However I had no preference for sex. I know friends who have been disappointed by having all boys. People say relationships when kids grow up are not based on sex, but of those looking after elderly parents and a grandchild over 60% are women according to the ONS. It's women who are more involved in family life for life at a population level.

I've done both. Didn't find out with DS1 and found out at 22 weeks with DS2.

If I had a 3rd, I'd much rather wait. Seeing DHs face as he said "we've got a son!" is one I'll remember the rest of my life.

I didn't find knowing made any difference to feeling bonded at all but only you can know how you feel about it!

We didn’t find out either and it really is the best surprise after you have just been in labour. We loved the excitement and the build up of it.
I also think other people are more excited when you give birth and no one knew what you were having!

The ‘neutral clothes’ argument is a new one and very funny. They don’t make you sign an agreement to buy only pink or blue when you find out. I don’t really get the ‘surprise’ thing either. I don’t consider a 50:50 chance to be much of a surprise!

When I was pregnant with DD I had my antenatal care at King’s in London, who have incredibly sophisticated scanning equipment. The sonographer double-checked that we wanted to know the sex and showed us her ovaries, which contained the cells which might one day become our grandchildren. It was unbelievably cool and much more dignified than looking between her legs at birth

Haha I too loved the idea of being a human Matryoshka doll when I found out DD was a girl! I told my mum about the ovaries/potential grandchildren and I remember her mind being absolutely blown- another great memory.

We have 3dc and pregnant with our 4th and final. We found out with the first 3 and decided not to find out with this one as it’s the last and wanted to experience a “surprise” at the birth and we really couldn’t care less what sex it is, we have both sexes already and know how wonderful both are! Saying that I felt slightly more bonded through pregnancy knowing what sex I was carrying with the others x

Surprise both times and the best surprises ever. Can't imagine it any other way 😊

I regret finding out with DD1, there was no need to know. On the labour ward there was only me and one other lady, and I can remember the buzz from the midwives when the baby was born asking whether it was a girl or a boy (it was a very quiet evening so could hear everything down the corridor). For second child I wanted to find out as DD1 would be 3 when baby was due and I was on the verge of throwing everything out/giving to charity. Good job I didn't as we were team pink.

I found out with both. The excitement of a baby exiting my body was quite enough for me without adding anything extra!