Overly worried about miscarriage - any sane thoughts for me????

[Tessaskids]

I have three close friends who have all been pregnant and who have all lost their babies in the last three weeks and all before 12 weeks gone. I am on my third pregnancy (I have two sons) and I can't stop thinking and worrying that this will happen to me also. It must be such a dreadful thing to go through. I was 6wks yesterday but have not been able to tell my girlfriends, because of what they have just gone through.

I am sure in my first two pregnancies that I was not unduly worried about miscarriage, but I spend lots of time now rushing to the loo to check I am not bleeding. It's driving me nuts and I cannot enjoy being pregnant. I know there's nothing I can do about it if I am going to lose this baby, but can anyone 'knock some sense into me', before I drive myself mad...... ? I WANT TO START ENJOYING MY PREGNANCY...

Oh dear Tessaskids, how horribly awful for your friends . It's only natural that you will worry after having had such horrible things happen close to you.
I really do know where you're coming from, being a 'worrier' myself. I am 14 weeks today - my only previous pregnancy (this summer) ended in miscarriage very early on, at around 5 weeks. I was desperate to conceive again and very lucky in that it only took me 3 cycles to do so, but when I got my BFP this time around I almost regretted having tried to conceive again because I was so absolutely terrified of losing this one too. Even though I'm now past the tme of greatest danger and long past the time at which my m/c happened, I'm still scared and still half-expecting everything to go wrong. Sorry I can't tell a more positive story of having completely overcome fear - but what I have found is that it does come in waves and you learn to live/cope with it. It's really important to take one day at a time and be glad when each day has gone well, rather than thinking forward to the point at which your friends lost their babies and anticipating that with terror. And you will find there will be (increasingly frequent) days when you can just relax and enjoy the wonder taking place inside you! Also try and keep busy with other things (as much as your state with m/s etc. allows you to!) - it is good to take your mind off the worry. HTH. And congratulations, BTW! All the best

Thanks berolina - I realised I must sound rather selfish - my three friends have had such awful experiences and there's me worrying about me and whether it will happen to me. It is so hard to know what to say to someone who has lost a baby, at ANY point be it 4 weeks gone or 12 weeks gone (or longer, obviously)....

Anyway thanks for your message