Wedding needs dietary requirements

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I am newly pregnant (3+4) and we have a wedding invite for December. We really don't want to be telling people yet, so I am wondering what to do about filling in the 'dietary requirements'. I suppose my options are telling them, or leaving it and hoping for the best. Unless anyone has any great pregnancy dietary requirements cover stories?? They are DH's family and I don't trust the bride and groom not to tell people - no issues with them, but I just don't think they'd really take the secrecy aspect seriously.

Should have said, RSVP deadline is this week - I've been putting it off!!

I think you’ve had a name change fail. Is it likely that food will be unsuitable for you? Could you just reply as normal and try to find out the menu in advance. The pregnant people at my wedding didn’t need any variance to the menu and didn’t add it the dietary requirements section either.

Are you being given menu choices or is it more that all meat eaters will get the same meal? You could err on the safe side and go for a vegetarian/vegan option. You wouldn't be able to have liver pate for instance if that is served

You could not specify any requirements, phone the venue closer the time then to suss the menu so you have some pre-warning. I

Unless the menu is full of unpasteurised cheese and raw eggs I think it’s unlikely to be a problem!

Those requirements are for vegetarians/vegans/allergies etc you are over thinking this.

Which food won’t you be able to eat? Currently pregnant and can’t think of anything I’ve been served at a wedding or had at mine that I can’t eat.

Would the venue give the menu to a random person calling who isn’t the bride or groom? I’d imagine they’d have more discretion than that. When my parents wanted to arrange extra drinks for my wedding, I had to give the venue permission in writing to deal with that.

I'm pregnant and the only things I avoid is cured meat and unpasteurised cheese. Can't imagine that will cause problems on a standard wedding menu.

@toastofthetown well you could say listen I'm pregnant and just wondering if there's anything that's not going to be suitable. That way they're not telling you the menu but you might get peace of mind

Even if there is something unsuitable, it'll only be a tiny part surely? Like pate starter? The main will all be cooked, won't it?

I wouldn't say anything if if I was presented with something unsuitable, DH would eat it.

Don't say anything, hope it's ok and stick a couple of cereal bars in your bag. The only thing I can think of that is likely to be served at wedding is pate so just eat the bread/cracker.

Loads of weddings have pate as a starter. Or the vegetarian option often includes goat’s cheese.

OP - I wouldn’t put that as a dietary requirement though, you’ll just have to leave whatever you can’t eat.

true about the pate, but surely you just don’t eat it, rather than faff around with dietary requirements?

Which is what @SalviaOfficinalis said 🤦‍♀️

sorry - much read better!

Saw you don't eat raw foods?

I'd pack some backup food in my bag just in case I was hungry and couldn't face the meal

Really?
Liver pâte, Rinded goats/soft blue cheese, rare beef, smoked salmon? Uncooked salami?

OP i suggest you don't need to put anything.

Plan to take something with you (you may be nauseous by then and only eating biscuits) in case you need to not eat something you're served.

Just request the vegan menu. Everything people have listed above such as pate and goats cheese etc will be excluded from that.

I wouldn't worry too much tbh. I've been to a few weddings pregnant now and never had problems with the menu. Why not ask the bride for a copy of their menu and say you want to check that you don't need to ask for any changes? They should know by now what they're offering. I think most people pick things they think the majority will eat and enjoy so you should be safe enough.