Terrified for scan after MMC

[Hello44]

Hi, just hoping that someone can offer some advice to help me stop being an anxious wreck 🙈

I had a MMC 4 months ago, whilst it was a horrific shock to be told there was no heartbeat during the scan I have to admit that I knew something was wrong from the start as I had bleeding in the beginning and then absolutely no pregnancy symptoms whatsoever. I just had a gut feeling.

I should be 10 weeks pregnant now according to period dates, I did have an early scan at 8 weeks and all was fine with a clear heartbeat but I’m just terrified for my 10 week scan tomorrow in case it has happened again. I have had sickness, lack of appetite and tiredness since about week 6 so I know my logical brain should be telling me that it’s different to last time but I can’t help but feel so anxious. Has anyone had a similar situation and a positive outcome? 🤞🏻

I had several miscarriages and the last time I was pregnant, my then DP really pushed for me to go for an early scan (I was 9 weeks). I went just to pacify him. Had the scan, internal of course given how early it was, and the Dr pointed out the tiny little dot and I could hear the heartbeat hammering away. Nurse said "is that the first time you've heard a heartbeat?" It was, and I cried.

DD is now 4 and sat on the sofa licking the innards out of a Halloween cupcake.

I wish you enormous amounts of luck OP.

@Hello44 I could of written this post myself, first of all congratulations on your pregnancy! And I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a Mmc in June, the same as you I'd had a couple of episodes of bleeding, and found the mc just before 12 weeks, I am currently 6 weeks pregnant and convinced it will happen again!

The fact you had a great scan already showing a healthy heartbeat is fantastic news! Try to focus on that, there's been no signs anything has changed and I'm sure it hasn't! Can you get another scan short notice to help? I have ptsd around scans and I'm absolutely havjng nightmares about my 8 week one xx

@Hello44 sorry just seen you have one tomorrow! Please try to remain positive! You will see such a huge change in to the scan scan tomorrow! X

@AuntieEntity so sorry for your previous losses ❤️ So pleased that you got your happy outcome though. I am lucky enough to have a toddler already so count my lucky stars every day, just so longing for another to add to the craziness. Thank you for responding 🥰

@Moosh18 so sorry you had to go through the same awful experience ❤️ I feel the exact same when it comes to having ptsd surrounding scans, I feel almost annoyed that I’ve had the excitement of scans taken away from me!

i am trying to remain positive, I keep telling myself that this is a whole new egg, a whole new pregnancy etc so it might not be the same but it’s just so hard isn’t it! I wish I could take some assurance from my 8 week scan being good but unfortunately with my MMC I had 2 prior scans and there was a heartbeat but then at the 3rd it was no longer there :( I know it’s not the same for all experiences so just trying to get my head around that. Luckily my scan is first thing in the morning so I don’t have much time to get myself stressed in the morning 🙈

Thank you and congratulations on your pregnancy too! I will keep my fingers crossed for you 🤞🏻 Xx

@Hello44 I'm sorry :( I had two scans prior as well in my loss and all was well, but try to focus on the fact you've said it feels different! No bleeding and symptoms, I'm six weeks and still don't really have any just tired so my mind goes to the worst! When did your symptoms start? Xx

Hi OP I really do understand your anxiety. That was me 29 years ago . I now have three adult children but I can still remember the anxiety I had with my first successful pregnancy. No symptoms ,baby never kicked so I was in and out being monitored, I now relise that the scans were so basic then that 8 didn’t know anything about placenta position etc .
Best wishes for tomorrow 💐Xx

I had blood loss 1 day before my 12 week scan and found out I had lost the baby. 7 months later I was pregnant again and it was just so worrying but all was absolutely fine in fact she was so comfortable she wouldnt come out and had to be induced at the maximum pregnancy time. I also went on to have another child without any problems. The fear never went away even with my second child. Hopefully my experience gives you some positivity and everything seems to be indicating a good healthy pregnancy. X

I also could have written this! I'm 10+4. Previously had a loss at 12 weeks MMC after a great 10 week scan and have spent 2 years TTC between these two pregnancies. I completely understand. I have a scan tomorrow - had a good one at 8+4. I am of course terrified it will all have gone wrong.

You are v welcome to join us on this thread where many people will get exactly how you feel www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy/4616195-due-aprilmay-after-mc?page=22&reply=121014860

@Moosh18 ah it’s so hard isn’t it ☹️ I’ve actually started keeping a “pregnancy diary” just in my phone notes this time around because I’m so anxious it makes me feel better to be able to track things, I started to feel slightly nauseous from week 6 on the dot and then have been sick pretty much every day since. I do remember in my previous successful pregnancy with DD that it started from week 7 and only continued until week 10 so maybe you’ll be the same! Or maybe you’ll be a lucky one who avoids sickness all together 🤞🏻 Xx

@amspeechless thank you so much 🥰 xx

@mrsbitaly so sorry for your loss 💕 the anxiety is awful isn’t it, seems like so many of us have to suffer it. Thank you for sharing your experience, really hope mines the same xx

I went through this after having had several MMCs. What helped me was just accepting that I couldn't control it - either it would work out or it wouldn't, and no amount of worrying or obsessing would change the outcome. I was still terrified when I had my scan though! He's now a lumping great 8 year old...

@IWillBeWaxingAnOwl ah so sorry to hear of your loss ❤️ Do you mind if I ask.. have you noticed anything different with this pregnancy? Like did you have lack of symptoms before the MMC or did you have pregnancy symptoms that time around?

congratulations on your pregnancy though, we must be due a couple days apart! Will keep my fingers crossed for you that your scan goes well tomorrow xx

@Giveaschitt I keep trying to tell myself this! Really hoping once I’m past the 12 week mark or once I can feel baby moving that I’ll be able to relax and enjoy the pregnancy 🤞🏻🤞🏻

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I had a miscarriage in March, funnily enough I was called in for a scan bc I have fibroids, literally upon arriving at the hospital went for a wee and saw I was bleeding. I was 10+3, I did not have any symptoms at all wear as with my son 2.5 I had symptoms before I even tested!
Symptoms are a good sign!!

Fingers crossed for you OP please update and let us know how it goes ❤️

No real advice I just want to say I have my fingers crossed for you OP, i can imagine how anxious and terrified you are ❤

I could have written this pist. I'm 9 weeks and had MMC in May at 11 weeks. Terrified of what might happen but hoping for the best

Best of luck

@Hello44Last time I had no change in symptoms before/after fetal death. I'm a bit reluctant to say this but my symptoms have definitely been much stronger this time. BUT I'm not past the point that the fetus died last time, so it doesn't mean this pregnancy is home free. Every pregnancy is different and my mum had two completely symptomless pregnancies that went absolutely perfectly. So low symptoms don't mean a loss or that it won't go well.

@rmummyofone so sorry to hear of your loss 💕 really hope you’re right and that me having symptoms this time around is a good thing!! Thank you, I will update you in the morning 🤞🏻

@Mydoggosarethebest thank you so much xx

@Xenapo so sorry, I hope you don’t have long to wait for your scan. I will keep my fingers crossed for you xx

I had a MMC at 12+4 and went on to have a successful but very anxious pregnancy. I got so worked up before scans. It was better when I could feel the baby kicking, but I still worried. I think that's part of being a mother, you worry every day of your life. I told myself, it'll either be okay today, or it won't, and either way, I will survive. I was on a pregnancy after mc thread at the time, and it helped. Good luck 🤞

@Hello44 I had HG with my DD and I took some comfort in it, as they do say if you have sickness you are less likely to miscarry, as it is a sign hormones are high! My sickness with her started bang on six out of nowhere and continued till week sixteen! X

I had a missed miscarriage and found out when i thought i was 21 weeks. I was traumatised after having had the 12 week scan.

I was very fearful with the subsequent pregnancy and even went as far to buy a heart monitor for later in the pregnancy as i was so worried

Just a handhold here from me as I didn't want to read and run. Hope all
Goes well with your scan xx

@jbee1979 sorry for your loss, it’s awful the anxiety that follows isn’t it. So pleased you went on to have your successful story, thank you for sharing 🥰

@Moosh18 really hope that’s the case 🤞🏻 Hope you don’t have too long to wait for your next scan so you can have some reassurance xx

@theremustonlybeone so sorry you went through that, it really is a traumatic time isn’t it. I have considered using a Doppler but have heard so many mixed reviews and feel like I’ll probably work myself up more if I had one but totally understand why people get them if it gives peace of mind! It’s such an anxious time isn’t it xx

@cakeislife1234 thank you so much xxx