Missed miscarriage at 9 weeks

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(WARNING MMC PIC INCLUDED TO THOSE WHO MAY FIND IT SENSITIVE)
hi everyone just got home after my MMC surgery discovered at 9w3d, babys heart stopped 8w2d. what a day its been, i had a scan before hand just to confirm everything and i got a final pic of baby - its so sad to see how lifeless little one looks but me and my partner said it kind of looks like an angel wing on babys back (i know thats silly but we have to find some comfort in situations like this) Im so glad i chose the surgery option was all over in a flash (literally) now i feel like i can finally begin the grieving process. If anyone has been through this before i would love to hear any advice on how to cope etc or any positive pregnancy stories after mmc (i had an ectopic in may and had my right tube removed, now this 5 months later all at the age of 22 with no health issues so feeling worried, confused and not very hopeful atall) xx

I'm so so sorry, what a beautiful picture of your little one and sending lots of love to you and your partner.

That is such a beautiful photo to remember your baby by. It does look like angel wings.

I’m so so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage in June and it’s utterly devastating. I found a podcast called The Worst Girl Gang Ever helped me not feel so alone and helped me deal with some of my feelings, they have a support group on Facebook as well. Tommy’s and the Miscarriage association also have a lot of advice, and helplines you can call if you have questions or are feeling low (Tommy’s is run by midwives so helpful if you have questions on what could be causing/how to approach getting investigations etc. And Miscarriage Association run by volunteers so if you feel like you need to speak to someone about your grief).

Take all the time you need to grieve your little one, nothing you or your partner are feeling in this time is wrong or not normal. I’m so sorry again and take care of yourself x

I’m so sorry you’re going through this - it really is horrendous! I also had an MMC at 10 weeks in April and literally felt like my whole world fell apart. I PROMISE you it gets better. We were lucky enough to fall pregnant one month later and I’m currently 24 weeks with our rainbow. There are better days ahead - be kind to yourself, don’t go back to work too quickly and, if appropriate for you, seek some counselling. I wish I had sought support tbh as I have found this pregnancy (particularly the first trimester) so stressful and I now wish I had approached it with a different mindset and enjoyed it a little more!

I’m so sorry you are going through this. I had a MMC at 11 weeks and the grief was almost unbearable. Go easy on yourself and allow yourself time to grieve. I fell
pregnant 4 months after my surgery and went onto have a healthy, uncomplicated pregnancy resulting in my beautiful boy. Sending strength x

Hi I have just had this happen to me. This would have been my third child so I know I am lucky in that respect. I have had two healthy babies and never thought this would happen to me. But at my scan was told my baby had no heartbeat. I am still waiting to be contacted by the hospital as I still have symptoms of pregnancy and no signs of anything, so they will need to start things somehow. I don't know why I posted really more just to not feel alone I suppose.

So sorry to hear about your loss OP.
I had a MMC a couple of years ago and opted for medical management. 5 months later, I became pregnant again and now have a beautiful rainbow baby girl who will be 2 at the end of November.

All the best to you both and hope you get your rainbow baby too 🌈

Hello. I am still waiting on hospital to contact me so I'm sat here still feeling sick and pregnant. The worst part for me to be honest. Luckily we were waiting to tell our children until after the scan, so they are oblivious and keeping me busy. Congratulations on your rainbow baby and genuinely thank you so much for your reply- it's nice to not feel alone x

I am so so sorry for your loss. I cannot give any new advice other than really take the time to look after yourself.
I had a mmc at the around the same time as you in May. Everyone is different with loss so don't compare yourself to anyone if you need a bit more time to grieve. I still feel so much sadness when I think of my little bean. I'll be lighting a candle for her on her due date.
As for hope, I have struggled with secondary infertility for 3 years before my mmc, I was devastated as i felt it may take another 3 years to fall pregnant or not at all. A couple of heavy cycles later I did fall pregnant. Currently 10 weeks but I haven't had a scan beyond 8 weeks yet, so very nervous about the 12 week one. But I'm trying to stay optimistic and focus on the present.
Please take care of yourself and I wish you peace

Thanks for your message. I've been in for the medical management now so just hoping it does what it is supposed to do. Congratulations on your pregnancy, hope your scan goes well and remember it is rare for what happened to us to happen so positive thoughts. Best of luck x

Hi. Don't know if anyone is still on this thread. But I had a missed miscarriage at my 12 week scan last week. Babys measurements were around 9+5. I think I've passed everything sadly and have lost my sickness but my boobs seem to be more sore if anything. I stupidly took a test to check if it's negative yet and of course it was still positive. I just wondered if anyone has any experience with this and when your test went negative. Basically I think the only way I can ever try and deal with what's happened is to ttc again when physically ready. I feel like this process is just keeping me here in this dark place because there is no end in sight right now. Thanks in advance

Forgot to mention I've stopped bleeding now and definitely passed baby etc. Thanks