Pregnant - new job 🫤

[Cybercrush1915]

Hi everyone

I (28) found out a few weeks ago that I’m pregnant currently 9 weeks & we are really happy (first pregnancy). The only issue is that I’ve started a new job not too long ago (about 5 months ago) and I kind of feel shitty telling them in a few months time that I’m pregnant and that I don’t really want to be returning after maternity either. I don’t really know how to go about it and what & when to to say it and I’m also kind of new & it’s all a bit annoying. I could probably care less as people leave for even less reason all the time but I just feel a bit worried. Hope someone has tips :)

I would wait until after your 12 week scan before having a chat. You have nothing to apologise and this is a possibility when hiring women between a certain age group 🤷‍♀️
I moved civil service departments during my maternity leave.

Just double check if you have to pay back your mat pay if you do not return

Don't make the decision about returning or not now, give notice at the time.

Do not say you don't plan on returning.

Iean,you're doing better than me. I got pregnant the month I was employed and then went on to have another baby so I've been employed for 3.5 years and worked 1...

don't tell them you are not planning on returning!! that is a conversation for after baby is here!

Women get pregnant shortly after starting new jobs all the time. It's fine, no big deal.
And agree do not tell them you don't plan to return until well after baby is born, keep all your options open. You may need to pay some of your maternity pay back do check that out.
Congratulations

Wait until your 12 week scan and say nothing about not returning. Make a plan to come back at 9 months and then you can extend it to a year if you want plus it gives you time to work out how you'll feel/ can afford etc when the time comes without being committed to anything. You just need to explore if you will need to pay anything back or work a couple of weeks before leaving completely. Congratulations!!

It’s really no big deal, women get pregnant, that’s life and it’s really normal.

Agree with pp, don’t say anything till after 12 weeks and also you don’t need to reveal you have no intention of coming back for right now.

I started my permanent part time job a week or two before an embryo transfer, so was actively trying, and it was successful. I figured I'd see what happened with the fertility stuff, and take the job, knowing i wanted both. I am now 38w, did 8.5 months in the job and my boss and team are really happy for us. I waited for the 12w scan before telling my boss, and might have waited longer but I was starting to show.

Honestly, they can't fire you bc you're pregnant. I plan to go back gradually after 6 months, but there's no pressure from my employer on timings or days at this point. Yes they're the ideal employer, no they're not all like it, but life happens and you should be supported and continue your role until you need to finish up. Don't tell them you don't plan to return, you don't know how you'll feel and you're not required to tell them at this stage.

Good luck with the pregnancy and congratulations