Alcohol at 19 weeks pregnant help!?

[Mama2b1]

I have trawled the internet searching for information on the above subject but all I can find are pages telling you how no alcohol is ever safe and no actual information for real life people . I have an appt with a midwife next week after just finding out I am pregnancy and I think I’m around 19/20 weeks! I have never had a period for months because of the pill I’m on, that’s normal for me so I didn’t notice.
i am not a huge drinker but when I drink I drink a lot, on the past 3/4 months or so I have had a couple of glasses of wine here or there but I have been at a party and I have had the equivalent to at least a full bottle of vodka, this was last weekend. I am
absolutely terrified.
has anyone ever drank a large amount in a night and their baby been ok?

I knew two people who didn't know they were pregnant until they gave birth! Both were drinkers. One did more than just drink. I was her birthing partner.

Both babies were fine and are now thriving.

It's not ideal, but now you know you can make the right adjustments.

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

All you can do is be honest and be really clear on how much you did drink, it’s not like you knew and did it intentionally. They will probably keep baby in after they’re born for some monitoring just to check all is okay. I’m sure you’ll be fine

Yes, to drink and more. Babies are survivors!

Women gestate and give birth to babies in famines and worse! Babies are incredibly hardy - you'll be grand

Try not to worry please ! Loads of people have a big party night before they realise they are pregnant, then worry themselves sick. You should only worry about things you can change, and this, unfortunately, you cannot. Get the next steps in place asap (scan etc. accelerate if possible) and tell the truth about what has happened, and take it from there. Don't be embarrassed with health professionals, you are not the first and you won't be the last, and had you known, you would have taken a different track. I am no medic, so I am not sure what the effect of alcohol is on a developing baby and if you google or go on mumsnet you are going to get a certain sort of response. For reference, my first was stillborn, and I did absolutely everything right. I've had four since and definitely had a couple of pints of cider once or twice, but I was fed up of people preaching. Easy to do from the sidelines. I've got my fingers crossed for you, and suspect everything will be OK. XX

Loads of women have. It wasn’t really into the 2000s that the advice changed on drinking. Don’t beat yourself up

I am in the exact same situation, I am now 35 weeks pregnant, I normally don't drink much but didn't realise I was pregnant until week 25.
I didn't drink in 1st trimester but did have 2 binge episodes weeks 23 & 24 at weddings where I drank just over a bottle of wine each time.
I have done alot of research on the Internet and there is no real evidence tp suggest that occassional binge drinking has an effect on the babies health and development. It is more risky if you have repeatedly binged throughout.
I'm still very anxious about it even though as scans show normal growth, etc.