Hate bring pregnant

[Riceyyyy]

I am at week 9 of pregnancy and ever since week 5 it has been hell, vomiting and nausea, its my first pregnancy and I was really happy and over the moon to find out I'm having a baby, but so far I'm hating being pregnant, I always imagined myself having a big family but I feel like this has put me off having more kids, anyone else felt like this?

@Riceyyyy there's a group in the pregnancy thread called hyperemesis support. You might find some support there from other women going through hyperemesis and also get tips/advice with meds etc.

I had this with my first pregnancy, I was sick until I gave birth and lost so much weight. But I had him and instantly felt better! Second pregnancy now is so different and aside from the odd time being sick and tired I actually feel fine, it's been such a relief

24 weeks

First baby

bloody hate it, mentally, physically, socially

100% do no recommend

I didn't enjoy either pregnancy. With my second I had hyperemesis and was constantly sick and pretty depressed until about 30 weeks. It was awful.... But I got through it, had a lovely baby and now years later I've recovered from it being so traumatic. Try not to lose yourself in expectations of the ideal pregnancy. It's mostly out of your control. enjoy the moments you can and rest assured that you'll feel invincible after going through pregnancy!

Ah OP I feel for you! I had terrible nausea with both pregnancies BUT I promise it goes away (unless you have HG but hopefully a doctor could diagnose this and you could get the relevant support).
With my first DC it was gone at 12 weeks and my second DC it was gone at 16 weeks. For most people 12 weeks is often the magic number where it starts to subside and you start to feel slightly more human.
My big advice is to surrender to it as much as possible, spend days in bed, sleep when you can, eat what you can (don’t worry what it is or whether it’s healthy, plenty of time for that) and try as much as you can to stay hydrated. I think it’s hard first time around because we’re so used to powering through and getting on with life no matter what but the first trimester of pregnancy often forces even the best of us to put on the brakes. Be kind to yourself.

@MummyJ36 thank you I've never been so depressed in my life I'm 10 weeks now so really hoping it goes at 12 weeks I haven't gone anywhere I left in days I'm never sick hay fever is what I usually get but never any sickness before I was pregnant the only time I would vomit was during a hangover which was rare because I'm really not much of a drinker all of my friends are so far away and I'm just here going through this alone I've honestly never been so depressed in my life :(

@Riceyyyy I was the opposite, I was a big drinker, the pub was like a little family who all took care of me after u had a stroke last year (I was 32). It’s only 5 minutes walk up the road.

im very alone. I can’t go in because I don’t trust myself not to drink, do iv lost my friends group, support unit, and social life in one go.

my husband is supportive but very emotionally distant, and really doesn’t understand

my midwife and consultant have referred me to antenatal therapy which they recommended after 12 weeks if your having problems… maybe ask about that.

lol, my only saving grace has been popping up on a Sunday and taking the old boys (that don’t have anyone a home) chicken stuffing sandwiches.

It does get better! I’m 33 weeks with my first and felt like you did in the beginning. The first 14ish weeks were awful and I felt like death every day!
But weeks 15-28 were pretty easy going!
Third trimester is bringing a few challenges, but it’s still miles better than first trimester! Hang in there.. it will all be worth it ❤️

@BeNewbo , that sounds really tough. I hope the therapy will help xx

Maybe trust yourself a bit if you want to go see friends at the pub. Just go for short periods of time and catch up with people like 30 minutes or so.

Oh OP I really feel for you. I could have easily written this during either of my first trimesters. And it didn’t help when someone well meaning would say “it will get better” but I’m now on the other side and I’m telling you…I promise it will get better. The days feel so long and I found just sleeping as much as possible helped move things along and resting as much as possible kept me from totally losing my mind. But I know how horrible it is, I even regretted getting pregnant in my worst moments. Such a horrible thought now that I’m sitting here with my little baby but in the throes of constant debilitating nausea I really did regret it. When I tell you it is worth it I really do mean it, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t horrendously hard at the time.

Are you able to take time off work to rest up? I ended up telling my boss early and they were very understanding and I was allowed to work from home as long as I wanted and also take sick leave too without question when it got too much.