Scan tomorrow at 7+2 - Nervous after MMC

[Veryxonfused]

Hi everyone,

Earlier this year I had a MMC, I found out my baby had died at 6 weeks at my 8 week scan. I had been spotting on and off.

I’m now pregnant again, 7 weeks 1 day and again I have been spotting on and off (even more than the first pregnancy!) I had an early scan last week at 6 weeks and baby had a heartbeat and was measuring exactly 6 weeks. But I could have got to that point last time before my baby died?! I have a private scan tomorrow which I booked before getting the NHS one and I’m just so so nervous it’s going to happen again. I’ve been reading statistics constantly and even though my miscarriage risk % seems low now, it was low the first time and it still happened. I’m struggling to find any reassurance.

There really aren’t any differences between the last pregnancy, except that I’ve seen the heartbeat. But if I went to the scan at 6 weeks last time I probably would have seen a heartbeat then? I feel nauseous but I felt nauseous last time. The only different symptom I’ve had this time is sore boobs, I never had sore boobs with the first one

Sorry this is one big long ramble

You may want to join us on the pregnancy after loss threads. We know exactly how you feel. I had a MMC at 13 weeks with my only previous pregnancy (fetal death at 11 weeks). I am currently 9 weeks and no idea when I will feel remotely safe or settled.

Wishing you all the best for tomorrow. Have been in your shoes before and have had good news and one with bad news.

All I can stay from my experience of going for an early scan at 9! Weeks when it was ok - they were able to tell me quickly

Good luck today and a handhold.

I can relate to how you're feeling, very similar experience to @IWillBeWaxingAnOwl

All I've tried to think about is that the risk is much lower once you've seen a heartbeat. Whilst I saw one at 9 weeks and still MC at 10.5 (discovered at 12 weeks), I think we have to just assume that we were very unlucky and the odds are still stacked in our favour.

I hope it goes well today ❤️

Thanks everyone, I’ve just had my scan and I’m measuring 7 weeks 3 days (one day ahead). So happy to have surpassed my own personal milestone. I was going to have another at 9 or 10 weeks but I think I might wait until 12 weeks now as the stress and anxiety I had this morning can’t have been good for it.
I’ll probably change my mind though when the anxiety floods back

Woohoo @Veryxonfused - glad to hear it all went well!

@Veryxonfused ah great news! I think I'm with you, I plan to wait until 12 weeks now unless I have any reason to go!