Bleeding at 5w5d

[JD90]

Morning,
I'm not really looking for advice just more a place to get this off my chest and such.
I am (by dates) 5w6d today (though I suspect a couple of days behind that in reality) and for the past 24 hours I've been having some bleeding.
It's not heavy, is almost entirely only on wiping but very noticeable. It's doesn't look like particularly fresh blood (which I wouldn't really expect if it's not enough to need any more than a liner).
I rang my GP as soon as I noticed it yesterday and she rang me back, and spend a good 20 minutes on the phone mostly trying to calm me down and was absolutely amazing (which I am so grateful for as I had a less than helpful gp earlier in the week when I rang up about a medication issue). She was realistic and honest but so kind and empathetic that no matter how this goes I will never forget how lovely she was during this whole thing. She explained that I can't be referred to EPU before 6 weeks (which again is totally understandable) and advised me to just try and rest and watch for a few days. So that's what I'm doing, but it's hard. The surgery is open tomorrow and EPU is open over the weekend so I suspect if it doesn't stop I will end up ringing them back tomorrow and get a referral for a scan. I'm just struggling with trying to stay calm, I know lots of women have it, I also know I have a cervical ectropian and that it could be coming from there. I don't really have any pain either which she said is reassuring, but I'm just very aware that losses don't always have pain and I feel like it's going to be an incredibly long weekend ahead. 😔

That's so shit. I'm currently going through what I'm 99.9% certain is a natural miscarriage, bleeding started on Tuesday - noticed when going to the loo and gradually got heavier. I've got a scan at my EPU next week to confirm. I'd call them anyway for advice, I was able to self refer and didn't need to go via the GP. Think it depends on your area. Thinking of you, it's so hard being in limbo. X

Sorry to hear you're in such a horrible situation. Unfortunately in my area unless you have a history of recurring losses you have to be referred by you GP or a&e but the 6 week rule stands regardless. So whatever happens they wouldn't accept a referral until tomorrow. I'm just struggling with the not knowing, which I'm sure everyone does. I just can't concentrate on anything so whatever I try to do to distract myself is failing miserably too. I feel like whatever the outcome at least once I know more I can deal with it better. I also feel really sorry for my partner as he is obviously upset and I feel like it's my fault for putting him through it.

Sorry for what you are both going through. I just experienced what appears to have been a chemical after a blighted ovum a few months ago. I will also go for an ultrasound next week .

OP, as you surely know it can go either way, but as long as you're healthy there's always a next chance. Maybe it will not be needed in your case and all will turn out ok. Fingers crossed.

Thanks for your response. Sorry to hear you're also going through it. It does help to know I'm not the only one struggling at the moment. Just trying to stay reasonable and sensible and not let myself get overly emotional about it all.

I listened to Kate Ferdinands podcast 'Blended' with Zoe Clark-Coates - about pregnancy loss. I recommend listening to it, I found some comfort from it. X

How are you doing @JD90? so sorry you’re going through this. I’ve had two miscarriages that started with bleeding but also bled in this pregnancy a few times and it turned out okay. It’s gut wrenching and of course you’re not able to concentrate on anything else. I happened to have my 2nd miscarriage at 10 weeks on holiday with my mum and I think trying my best to stay strong and not emotional to avoid worrying her (she was very upset), and for my husband who couldn’t really be there for me remotely, made the whole thing much worse and plunged me into months of post-MC anxiety. Please be kind to yourself x

Thanks for checking in, I'm not too bad today. I couldn't get through to my GP this morning so ended up ringing epu direct to ask if the walk in centre could refer me. They said I didn't need to, took all my details and background and booked me in for Monday afternoon. Reassured me that the bleeding by itself isn't concerning to them, that it's not really heavy enough to need a pad etc but as I've had some pain they want to scan me. So I just have to wait it out until Monday and see what's what.

If it's any sort of comfort to you, I've had bleeding in both pregnancies.

First one was bright red at 11 weeks with DS. They couldn't find the cause he's 3 now .

Second time I was 7/8 weeks and I'm 28 weeks with twins now. Again, didn't know why.

They did say sometimes these things just happen and there isn't a reason for them but bleeding in pregnancy is more common than we are lead to believe.

I hope everything is okay and you get the answers you need.

Thank you for your response. It is definitely reassuring having people reach out and tell me their stories. I'm on day 4 of bleeding now, overall it was definitely improving yesterday and though I had some periods of discomfort I wouldn't describe it as pain so much. So will just wait and see what today holds. I'm still struggling to be optimistic about it overall but will see how it goes.

So everything ended up going a bit sideways since this morning. Had a sudden and massive increase in pain and ended up contacting epu again. They brought me in straight away and it turned out to be the best choice. Unfortunately it has turned out that it is ectopic and I have been admitted for emergency surgery. So currently just sitting and waiting to be taken down. Sent DP home to try and chill out and make sure he eats something, to get some stuff together and bring back later. Hopefully I might be able to go home tomorrow... hopefully. In all honestly it's all been such a whirlwind I'm just blank of emotions at the moment. I know it will all hit me at some point but right now I'm just empty.

So sorry @JD90

So sorry to hear this.

I’ve lost both my tubes to ectopics and it’s HARD. My miracle came in between ectopic one and two, if that’s any consolation AT ALL.

Thanks. It's really just not even registered yet if I'm honest, I know it will and I suspect it will hit me hard so I'm just waiting for it.