Pregnant and single

[Amyjay19]

I'm currently 32 weeks pregnant and due my in less than 8 weeks I've been single since I found out.
I've done my whole pregnancy alone so far as the father wanted no involvement which I respect is his decision, recently he got back in touch and said he wanted to be involved with the baby and said his mum was asking about the baby I was happy he had changed his mind and was hoping to meet up with his family as I haven't met them before (please don't judge clearly pregnancy wasn't planned but everything happens for a reason)
He has since stopped contact and now I can't stop thinking about my child's other family and how I don't want him to miss out on them even if the father doesn't want a relationship with him.. I've been going back and forth about weather I should just reach out to his mum and see if she would like to meet up as I don't have much time left until the babies here.
What is the right thing to do should I leave the decision in his hands or give his mum the choice to make her own mind up..

Sounds like his mum pushed him into making contact. I know it’s difficult but he clearly doesn’t want a relationship with the child or you either. I had this with both of mine and chose to cut all contact with their fathers.
It’s not easy but it’s definitely doable. My eldest is 26 and is living their life with morals and attitudes instilled in them by me. I’m very proud of how they are today. My youngest is a teen and is doing absolutely fine. It’s not all sunshine and roses but it is what it is and we got by.

@FleeUpFreeTime i don’t think it was his mum that made him make contact but I do believe his mum wants to be involved with the baby.. I don’t want to be with him that’s not my reason for reaching out I just don’t want to deny my baby from anyone who wants a relationship with them I won’t force anything on him but I’m just nervous to reach out to his mum as we are strangers and don’t want to come across as pushy either way my baby will have an amazing life with or without other family I just don’t want to deny them the chance

I would contact her and just keep it short, that you heard she’s interested to meet the baby and you are ok with that. Say when it’s your due date and if she wants more updates or to get in contact to let you know.

you don’t need to mention the father at all, this is not about him.

by keeping it short, you leave the door open, don’t start any complicated discussions at this point (about father etc) and you can discuss more if she gets in contact, probably best to discuss in person.

I agree the child shouldn’t be deprived of any relationship they might be able to have. this way you have done your part.

And if you’re just 32 weeks, than gives her plenty of time to think about meeting the baby. She’s not forced to make a decision quick, as would have if the baby was already there.