I told him I was pregnant and he has went silent

[Augustmama9]

(Please do not judge) I met this guy in August and we had great chemistry and really clicked. Yesterday I found puns out via a clear blue test that I am 1-2 weeks pregnant and I told him. He texted me and said he feels so bad now and has went silent, no phone calls or texts. Should I give him space or check in on him? We both already have kids and I am not scared to go in it alone again but his silence has worried me.

What did you want from him? Were you a couple?

I told him I didn’t want anything from him like money or anything materialistic. We were not an official couple

That's just irresponsible.

I told him I didn’t want anything from him like money or anything materialistic just emotional support . We were not an official couple

Should I give him space or check in on him?

No. You wanted emotional support from someone who, in the end, isn't willing to provide it. You weren't an official couple for whatever reason, and those reasons still apply.

Got to agree.

How does it work if you go ahead with the pregnancy? Will you be ok? It’s worth thinking a bit more long term - I know you say you have a child already, but another one delays you being able to work.

What is best for your existing children? That should be your primary concern, and it's difficult to imagine that having another baby to feed with a man you don't even know is a sensible way forward.

Do you want the baby? Can you afford it? If you never see or hear from him again will you cope?

He’s made a baby though. You might not want anything from him but you can’t speak for the kid.

He's probably in shock. An unplanned baby would certainly explain his silence, while he processes the news. Give him a few days, then contact him again. Do you want another child? Can you afford to be a single parent?

I hope you have some real life support.

Why? Sometimes contraception fails. I had an implant in for a year and got pregnant.

You've only known each other since August. You actually know each other but now you're in a situation where you're having a child together. It's far from ideal.

You don't know him well enough to know if he'll stand by you or be a decent father. Probably not from his silence.

I think you need to be prepared to do this alone.

• actually hardly know each other

Were you on the pill? If not why was no protection used? Did you want a baby? You dont know him at all, and are not a couple. The poor guy is in shock.

If you’re going ahead with the pregnancy it’s a bit premature to say you don’t want any money from him. But you can change your mind at any time if you know his full name.

I would let it sink in for him, he may come round, he may not. You just need to decide if you are happy to have this baby and do it by yourself, it seems you are so just do that and leave him to it. If he decides he wants to be involved with the child at a later date that’s his call. He should pay towards the child though regardless of if he’s involved in their life. You can’t really expect him to emotionally support you through a pregnancy he currently doesn’t seem to want anything to do with, you aren’t together and hardly know each other but good if he does come round to it and supports you and the baby x

Nobody asked for the bitchy judgey brigade to poke their nebs in. The question was give him space or not. The rest is none of our beeswax.

Give him a day or two to get his head round it then ask to see him to talk. He might just need time to mull things over.