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Announcing Pregnancy

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GreenFly56 · 05/10/2022 17:41

DH and I decided against 'announcing' pregnancy on social media. We are not avid users and dont keep in touch with half of our social media friends so felt a bit like we would just be doing it for the likes. Anyway we have told family and a handful of close friends but i am worrying about friends we have not told and whether they wil feel put out? Obviously if we bump into people it will soon be clear but if its people i dont see often will they care they didn't no? Most of our friends have done the SM announcing so you are always in the loop. I just dont want the rest of the pregnancy to be receiving regular texts from people asking how its going.

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Pregnantpolly · 05/10/2022 17:46

I announced via sm at 20 weeks. There's definitely fewer people checking in as pregnancy goes on. I think people care about you and sometimes it's nice. Also the ones contacting me are the ones I would've told anyway.

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GreenFly56 · 05/10/2022 17:50

We are definitely not doing a sm post but i wonder if i should text more people? Sorry should have made that clear. It just feels a bit weird texting half my phonebook

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GreyTCat · 05/10/2022 17:55

As someone struggling with fertility thank you for not posting it on sm. It’s like a punch in the gut when you’re having a happy chill time casually scrolling through sm and then see a surprise announcement.

I think how you’ve done it is fine.

HappyAsASandboy · 05/10/2022 18:08

I didn't announce my pregnancy on Facebook, but I did post to introduce my babies when they were born. Less "I am pregnant" and more "Baby Name has arrived".

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GreenFly56 · 05/10/2022 18:15

@GreyTCat so sorry to hear about your struggles.

We wont be posting on sm at all about the child.

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BeanieTeen · 05/10/2022 18:49

I think it would be weird to text people just to let them know. Surely if you’re close enough friends you’d be in touch every couple of weeks or months so it would eventually come up in conversation before the LO arrives. If not, it doesn’t really matter if they know or not I think - why would you be put out because someone you don’t even speak to twice a year hasn’t let you know that she’s pregnant. You can’t be that close anyway.

Blueberrywitch · 05/10/2022 18:54

I think you risk close friends thinking that you don’t like them very much if you don’t tell them. Just group your friends in a WhatsApp group/Facebook group message and tell them all at once, same with family. Or copy paste the message to everyone who would expect to be told.

Daisychainsx · 05/10/2022 19:01

I told my close friends and family. Anyone else that I'm not close enough with to have seen in person or spoken to by now doesn't really need to know. I avoided the social media post too, but I've decided I'm permanently deleting Facebook next week when we get the keys to our very long awaited house... a lot of people have been very invested in our house journey as its in a different country to where im from, so im going to post a photo of us outside the house and tell everyone I'm leaving SM and if they want my number to contact me. They'll see the bump and can make their own deductions!

Ragwort · 05/10/2022 19:03

I don't think pit's necessary to tell everyone ... years ago people didn't make a public announcement about being pregnant. Just tell immediate family and close friends (if you want to) & other people can find out 'on the grapevine'. There is no real reason that everyone in your phone book 'needs' to know is there?

fairgame84 · 05/10/2022 19:05

I didn't announce on sm at all. The only people that know are people that have seen me in the past 38 weeks. Even some family don't know.
I decided not to an announcement because I have friends on sm suffering with infertility. We've had fertility issues ourselves and it's crushing seeing everyone around you get pregnant. This is also a high risk pregnancy as well and I'd rather wait until baby is here safely then I'll do a sm post.

Ragwort · 05/10/2022 19:07

*Blueberry' why would people assume you don't like them if you don't tell them you are pregnant? ... having a baby is surely a very personal matter and unless you are committed to a mountaineering expedition or similar doesn't really have any impact on your friends' lives?

But I am from the generation where I would have no idea if people were expecting or not until you received an old fashioned birth announcement card in the post .

SalviaOfficinalis · 05/10/2022 19:10

For people you don’t see/ talk to that often I would just mention it next time you speak to them rather than contacting them specially to make the announcement.

I know what you mean though. It feels weird that people don’t know, but also weird to announce it specially.

My compromise was doing a Facebook post to celebrate starting maternity leave. So I guess that was a very late pregnancy announcement.

AprilShowers23 · 05/10/2022 19:13

I didn't announce on social media. I told family early on. I told friends as and when I saw them or spoke to them.
Partly because i hate the attention and feel awkward announcing it out of the blue. Also, when I was TTC I dreaded every announcement on social media - even if I didn't know them that well.

Spin4Gin · 05/10/2022 19:38

AprilShowers23 · 05/10/2022 19:13

I was exactly the same! I did pop her arrival up after a few days but that's pretty much it. A lot of people were surprised but happy for me and I avoided being asked about when she was going to arrive etc. it would have driven me round the wall as she was 2 weeks late haha

LordMooey · 05/10/2022 19:45

Nah... Imagine all the work involved in texting all your phone book! I told my mum and a few close friends very early on, then after first scan started dropping it into conversation as and when I saw people. And then with others, mostly casual acquaintances I saw fairly regularly (at school pickup, church etc), I just waited until they noticed for themselves, and enjoyed the look on their faces as they wrestled with whether to ask or not. I suppose there are probably still people who don't know, and if I bump into them with either my now-gigantic bump or a newborn, I expect they'll do a lovely double take and we'll have a good laugh about how long it's been.

This is my third baby and while I realise I am a bit asocial, I've never had anyone take offence at my way of doing things.

batshitballs · 05/10/2022 21:02

I didn't announce pregnancy.

People who i wanted to know, I told

The birth was announced on SM

Smiffette · 06/10/2022 11:32

I didn't post on SM neither did DH and we won't next time, when/if it happens.

I don't really like they idea of sharing something so personal especially when you loose touch with so many people.

Each to their own though, just not for me really.

I would just text/call close family and friends and anyone else will find out as and when.

Garman · 06/10/2022 12:38

We have 3 dc. We never did sm announcements, told family and friends as we saw them or if we wouldn't see them because they live further away I text them to tell them. I told people from 16-24 weeks onwards, I didn't tell one very close friend who lives abroad until I was in labour at 34 weeks 🙈 People don't mind or care, and if they have an issue or opinion that's on them not you.

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