Second miscarriage - positive stories/support needed

[HotChocolateWithMarshmallows]

Sadly going through a miscarriage at 6 weeks. Previously had a missed miscarriage back in July.

Feeling like utter shit and starting to panic that I may never be able to have a baby. I have no underlying contributing factors that I am aware of.

Has anyone had 2 or more miscarriages and had successful pregnancies? Trying to stay hopeful but its so hard!

@HotChocolateWithMarshmallows didn't want to read and run but thought I'd share my experience.

I have one child (5yo) and I've had 3 miscarriages since then. I was diagnosed with PCOS last year and started on clomid treatment to help me ovulate. I have been pregnant twice since I started this treatment. I'm pregnant just now. Around 5 weeks or so however they wanted me in for a scan yesterday to rule out ectopic, nothing was seen so they checked my bloods. Back in again tomorrow for another scan to hopefully see something.

Each time it becomes more and more horrendous and more anxiety filled, the days are long and the worry drives me crazy. I do think if things don't work out for me this time, next time I will NOT have early scans, as it really does cause more anxiety than is needed if it's too early to see anything.

Sending you lots of hugs, I know it's hard. So many women go on to have successful pregnancies after miscarriage and we just have to hope it will happen for us one day.

I had two miscarriages, and a full year of TTC after both, which was heartbreaking every month we didn't conceive on top of the initial miscarriage heartache. The first was at 6 weeks, and the second a missed miscarriage identified at 12 week scan.

I now have two gorgeous children, the second of which was conceived much more quickly than expected after we started trying - given the journey we went through for our eldest. I was convinced something had to be wrong, googled far more than was healthy and wasn't reassured by any fertility testing we embarked on. It's a really lonely experience and all I can say is be kind to yourself, seek out any support you think will be helpful and, from what you have described and from my own anecdotal experience, there is no reason not to be hopeful xx

I lost 4 pregnancies before having my gorgeous son. It turns out I had high levels of Natural Killer Cells.

I've been where you are and it's such a lonely and isolating feeling. It's especially hard when it seems every other person in the world is announcing pregnancies while you're going through trauma. For me, the only thing that helped was time (as cliched as that is).

Wishing you all the best OP. Be kind and gentle with yourself x

Thank you for your kind words ladies xxx

@HotChocolateWithMarshmallows I’m so sorry for your loss, I had a miscarriage in June and it’s one of the most devastating experiences of my life. I wanted to recommend a podcast called The Worst Girl Gang Ever, it made me feel less alone and they have a group on Facebook you can join as well for support. Tommy’s also have some helpful information and a support line run by midwives.

I read that you’re not necessarily more likely to miscarriage again after two miscarriages www.tommys.org/baby-loss-support/miscarriage-information-and-support/frequently-asked-questions-about-miscarriage/will-i-miscarry-again But it’s also worth speaking to your GP to see if they can refer you for any tests (things like progesterone levels/thyroid)… many won’t until your third miscarriage but I’ve heard of some who do. I’m so sorry again, be kind to yourself and take care.

So sorry for your losses. Yes, I had 3 miscarriages and gave birth to my son after. All in my 40s. Don't give up hope x

Sorry for your loss. I had two miscarriages and now have two daughters.

I'm so sorry for your loss - it's devastating.
I had two miscarriages, gave birth to my first DS, had another miscarriage and then had my second DS. This was nearly 30 years ago, and I will always remember the kind words of a lady in her late 70s (I had never even met her before, she was the sister of a friend of mine) who sat me down when she heard about my first miscarriage. She told me that she understood how I felt because she had lost her first pregnancy and it was like 'the end of the world' but, she continued, "look at me now, in my 70s with 2 grown up children and 5 grandchildren... don't give up hope". It did feel like the end of the world, but her words stayed with me and I didn't give up hope and didn't give up trying. I know I was lucky (underlying health condition I didn't know about at the time) to have carried 2 pregnancies to term, and I hope you can get pregnant again and be lucky next time. Don't give up hope 💐

Hi OP, sorry to hear your loss, I am going through the same and so worried about my age, I am 36 (37 next May). It’s devastating. Sending positivity to you xx

I had two mcs between my perfectly healthy kids. It’s doesn’t usually mean anything about your fertility. They’re a lot more common than most people are aware of, unfortunately 💐

Thank you, hearing all your stories is giving me hope x