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Feeling overwhelmed

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Ciaraqnn · 03/10/2022 19:23

I really don’t mean this to sound like a complaint, or like I don’t realise how lucky I am to actually be pregnant, but I am finding this pregnancy journey very difficult mentally as well as physically.
Since I found out I am pregnant, I have been diagnosed with severe anaemia, high blood pressure and now they are investigating a potential liver complaint. I had zero health issues before I got pregnant and I am really struggling to keep my thoughts positive. I have to see a midwife twice a week because of my blood pressure and now have to factor in weekly blood tests. I feel so guilty that all of these things that are wrong with my body are harming my baby and I feel quite down and tearful a lot of the time.
I know lots of people who would give anything to be in my position and that just makes it worse, knowing that I am not enjoying the experience others crave above anything else.
ive spoken to my midwife about it who said (probably quite rightly) that it’s my hormones and that I’m struggling with being out of control.
I want my baby and I will love it with my whole heart, but I wish someone had told me how hard this whole thing was, then I probably wouldn’t feel so alone.
I know I sound like a terrible, selfish person. I’m just hugely overwhelmed.

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Lavendersparkles22 · 03/10/2022 19:39

I despised pregnancy both times, truly awful experience. I absolutely love my kids though, it doesn't make you a bad person to not love every second!

Sallyh87 · 03/10/2022 20:32

Yes, pregnancy is hard and really unglamorous. I find it very hard mentally as well (this time and with DD1), kind of like everything bothers me and I catastrophise everything. However, I love my daughter and know I’ll love this one too. The weird overly emotional feeling, lifted the second I had her, so I assume it was hormonal.

I think people want a baby and people should be grateful for having a baby. Being pregnant and not loving it is not the same as being ungrateful that you can have a baby.

Sallyh87 · 03/10/2022 20:36

Also, I have type 1 diabetes so I can really emphasise with worrying about health and the mental load of that. Its a lot!

ClaudeMyWinkleman · 03/10/2022 20:42

Right there with you, second pregnancy and I feel like my body is breaking. DH is amazing but life is busy right now. I'm missing those extra thoughtful caring touches that he had more time to do first time round.

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