Worry I'm doing everything wrong - tell me I'm not alone!

[NewSew00]

I'm 12 weeks pregnant after many rounds of IVF and am worrying myself silly over everything. I'm not actually too worried about things I can't control but more about actions that I have taken/ things I've done. None seemed particularly risky at the time but afterwards Ive been kicking myself so bad. I've certainly learnt my lesson and am never repeating anything that caused me worry after.

Please tell me I'm not alone! (And also that I can stop worrying about the below!)

Recent things have been...

• Rode the tube during the heat wave - was v v hot - did I overheat and hurt the baby?
• Had someone in to paint the spare room and went in to check on it - did I inhale paint fumes and hurt the baby?
• Did some gardening with gloves that had holes in - did I get toxoplasmosis?
• Put head under covers in bed to read phone at night and not wake up husband - did I oxygen deprive baby?

Am I mad or is this normal??

You’re being a bit mad, but I’d say when you’re pregnant it’s normal to be a bit mad and even more so when getting pregnant has been a struggle.
Don’t worry about any of the things you mentioned, you’ll be fine. You haven’t done anything dangerous. If you’re anxiety doesn’t get better then do speak to your midwife, they can offer support.

It's natural to worry and is very common to be very anxious but you are sounding somewhat irrational. Definitely speak to your midwife about your anxiety. The NHS website has advice about what to avoid during pregnancy so just stick to that and you'll be fine, avoid googling too much. Maybe it's worth looking into hypnobirthing? The techniques might help you stay calm.

This is really over the top. None of things are going to harm your child. This level of anxiety is not helping and could escalate. And what about when the baby comes?
Try and get some help now.

Thank you - I think I just needed someone impartial to talk some common sense into me and tell me those things are fine. I've no mental health issues and the worry doesn't stop me sleeping / affect my life too much and each worry fades after a couple of days, it's just more annoyance at myself for doing things that I can worry about later!

Totally agree that Googling is the enemy of common sense - definitely need to stop doing that!

I understand why you’re worrying but honestly those things are totally fine.