Paranoid an anxiety ridden

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My first day of my last period was 17th august. I tested positive on 16th September so I’m just over 5weeks. I’m 31 and never been pregnant before and we conceived the same month I came off the pill!
I am a nervous wreck thinking it’s too good to be true. I cannot sleep at nights or concentrate at work expecting something bad to happen. I’ve had the period cramps, painful gas now and then, couple of dizzy spells (I’ve always been anaemic) all completely normal pregnancy symptoms. However, I am beside myself every single day and wrecked with nerves. I had a side stitch on a walk yesterday and convinced myself it was the sign of an ectopic pregnancy even though the stitch went when I sat down. I was so wrecked with nerves this morning my anxiety made me have a dodgy belly on the toilet

• which my brain made me google ‘miscarriage and diarrhoea’ which made me feel so sick I threw up.

I am doing all this to myself and I cannot enjoy this pregnancy for 9 months if this is how I’m behaving every single day.
I am going to book an 8 week early reassurance scan but in my head I’m convinced it will be bad news. How I am supposed to cope this next 3 weeks before the scan is beyond me.
Any advice from anyone to help ease this very very bad anxiety!

You can only take it a day at a time, and if it's that bad (seems like it is) then consider professional help.... The anxiety most likely won't just disappear after one scan and it will be a very long and anxiety ridden 9 months otherwise!

You need to get help for this as once baby is here you may get post natal anxiety xx

You're going to get totaly crazy by the wnd of your pregnancy if you continue with this kind of anxiety.
Try to enjoy the moment and be happy because today everything's fine. Today you are good. We can't know what tomorrow brings but neither can we prepare for eventual bad situations. Everything has a solution and everything passes, whatever it is.
Pregnancy bring a lot of changes to our body and it's normal to feel dozens of things we never felt before. Try to relax and enjoy the moment, you'll ruin your days googling. All the best

I found early pregnancy a really anxious time too, I hated it.

I felt like I shouldn’t get too excited about it incase I jinxed it. But I tried to tell myself that if I did have a miscarriage I wouldn’t feel any worse because I’d allowed myself to be happy before.

Don’t know if that makes sense.

It's worth speaking with your GP or midwife if you've met them about your mental health. It's OK to be a little nervous sometimes, but if you're really struggling, they should be able to offer you some help.

Pregnancy is scary because you feel all these different things and have no idea what's happening inside. Every pregnancy is entirely different, and there doesn't seem to be any rules or patterns! I've had two babies, and with the second, I had bleeding all the time, lots of pains, waters breaking slowly and early etc.

Some things I would treat at home, for example, if I had a little pain, I'd take some paracetamol and lie down for 15 minutes if the pain had reduced or gone great! If it hadn't, I would call my midwife. With the bleeding, I called every time. They would get me in and check me over, and this just became a regular thing.

Google isn't always that good, especially if you want to confirm your fears. You know your own body so go with your gut.

Pregnancy can be a terrifying time, please don't breast yourself up! I had my little girl 6 weeks ago, but I lost my first baby last year so this pregnancy I was extremely anxious. However, I was also anxious throughout my first pregnancy but didn't ask for help.
Be honest with your midwife and let her know how you're feeling. There's lots that can be done to provide extra reassurance. In the early days I had my HCG levels checked a few times to make sure they were doubling which helped me mentally.
Then when I was far enough into the pregnancy my midwife saw me every couple of weeks to talk through my anxieties and also let me listen to the babies heartbeat.
In the final trimester I felt like I was in and out of hospital having her movement's monitored, but it was all what I needed to get through the pregnancy.
I also tried IAPT CBT during the pregnancy, but I personally didn't find it useful.
Take each day as it comes, remind yourself that right now you have no reason to believe anything is wrong. Keep picturing that little baby you'll be holding in nine months and think about how safe and secure they are right now whilst you're helping them grow. Don't beat yourself up when the anxiety comes, it's all because you love that little baby! Sending you lots of love xx

Thank you for your reply it means a lot x

Hi 😊 I had a early miscarriage in May and I am also struggling. Sorry to hear you are In the same boat.

Our due dates will be pretty much the same, my lmp was on the 18th August! I am trying to take each day as it comes, but it's going so slowly and it feels like being pregnant is too good to be true. It's all I've ever wanted!

It would be good to keep in touch.