Why does no one care

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Why does no one care about second babies? Im mostly feeling sad for this little one as literally feels like no one cares about its existence. Also finding this pregnancy a lot harder than the first so probably just emotional

Yeah I kind of felt that when I was pregnant with my 2nd child, only immediate family were excited. Also not as many people came to visit my 2nd child as visited the first. I'm not sure why that is

Immediate family aren't even bothered no one asks how I am, how scan was etc. its just very different.

It’s just so that middle children can feel their feelings were justified when they become parents themselves

Couldn't agree more!!?
The amount of cards, messages and thoughtful gifts I received when I had my first.
I did get messages with my second but only my family seemed to care!!

Yeh people definitely aren’t bothered after the 1st

Also in the months after, nobody cares, asks or visits with the second 😂

Oh I'm sorry op. I'm pregnant with my second, but I hope people do care when baby arrives as I had my first in may 2020 during lockdown and no one met him for months :(

Yep, only told family and none of them care! Not even going to bother announcing this pregnancy, once they've arrived we will just be like SURPRISE we've got another one

I think they lose interest after the first. It just seems like a repetition and not very exciting. I'm a second child and this does carry through life.

I'm pregnant with my third now. No one outside our nuclear family cared after the first but the kids are excited for a sibling which is what matters!

Because a first child is a “first” and will completely change your life, people want to help and celebrate new parents. A new family has been formed. People light up at the news and feel joy.

The second is a natural, unsurprising continuation of your family life, so it doesn’t give everyone that massive boost of joy unless they’re very close to the family.

Having a first child changes your life. It's your first role as a parent, and is a very new and exciting stage in life, that people are pleased to celebrate for you. The second child is a continuation of that new life, I suppose. No less important as a person, but not such a big change or experience.

Also, children are everywhere! I love my children, I love the children of my family and friends, but your child is never going to excite everyone else as much they do you. I think parents can get very wrapped up in their own babies children and lives in the early years, but the people around you just won't be to the same extent.

No one really cares about me or my baby and it's my first and only! Only my mum, husband and maybe 3 friends check in and ask about baby, i think thats just the norm, whether first or second child. I have had everyone piping onto me for years about when am i going to have kids, how excited they'll be etc etc yet here i am pregnant at 37 with my first and only and hardly anybody mentions me or baby anymore, in fact iv lost friends due to being pregnant. Hope you're ok though and i think we can all relate xx

Yeah it’s just the way it is, although in fairness I can’t say I get exceptionally excited about anyone else’s pregnancies, is that mean? 🤣 I think that might just be because I’ve got 3 children (pregnant with number 4) of my own and EVERYONE has had or is having babies all the time in my circle of friends and family so it’s almost expected and unless it’s your first people don’t feel like they have to make a big fuss x