Anxiety 12 week scan!

[hol92]

Hi all, I am 12 weeks +3 and have my dating scan tomorrow and I have such awful anxiety about it, I am sitting at work and feel like I can’t concentrate I just want it over with. I had a private scan at nearly 9 weeks and saw the heartbeat but just seem to have in my head that something has gone wrong, why am I thinking the worst :( my husband is so positive and I just can’t stop thinking about negative thoughts - has anyone else got/had this?

I can’t stop thinking about MMC and see so many stories about them I think I’ve just got into my head and need some reassurance / positive stories

xx

Hey OP, congratulations!

I was exactly the same before the 12 week scan, I honestly felt sick and the time seemed to go so slowly. I stupidly read loads about MMC and was just convinced something was wrong. I remember taking a photo of the cat the night before and even looking at that photo now brings back the anxiety. I couldn't concentrate or think - Even up to the point the sonographer was lubing me up!

And then lo and behold, a little baby appeared on screen, kicking its little legs and doing summersaults. Said baby has just fallen asleep asleep on me after a long mid-morning feed.

Don't worry OP, it's normal to be nervous but you and baby will be fine. MMC is rare, and tbh the worry never goes away from here. You'll soon start feeling them move and worry if you haven't felt them in a while (always get that checked, you're never wasting anyones time - and it's extremely likely there won't be anything wrong if you do experience this!) and then they're born and you have a million new things to worry about!
Think it's called mum life haha and will probably never go away!

Good luck tomorrow, if you can please do update us after xxx

Scanxiety!

It's tough. Hope everything goes well.

@anon5678 thank you so much for your reassuring message I really appreciate it and it really helps me knowing others felt like this and it all ended up okay ❤️

forums can be so helpful until you read a few bad stories and they seem to be the ones that stick, my friend said yesterday I must be ‘so exited for my scan’ and I’m sure when I’m laying there and see baby okay 🤞🤞 that I really will but at the moment definitely not!

haha you are so right! There will always be something to worry about even when they are born my mum always says kids are a life long worry sentence and I suppose that starts now!

it’s at 2.30pm so just need to get through today and tomorrow morning at work, I will be sure to update - thank you so much again. Xxx

@hol92 how did it go? Xxx

All good thank you everyone 😃😃😃 feeling so much better now it was so lovely so see him/her kicking about - so we thinking girl or boy ? 😃 we couldn’t get a very good picture because of my awkward bladder haha! X

During pregnancy with my son, I was almost always mentally very relaxed. But before the first examination towards the end of the first trimester, I was also terribly nervous. You are not alone, it happens to many!

And how nice that everything looks good. What an adorable picture of your baby! I hope you can rest easier now and hopefully continue to have an uncomplicated pregnancy.

All the best to you!

@hol92 omg 😍 amazing! Congratulations, so pleased all was good! I would say boy from that pic I think xxx

Congratulations! I'm exactly the same before a scan, had my 20 week one yesterday and it just makes me feel sick with anxiety!

I'm saying little boy 💙 x