Not financially stable

[Cat1986]

Hi everyone
I have found out I am pregnant and it was unexpected. I am not with the father as the relationship didn't even go that far and I ended up getting what they call ghosted. He just stopped talking to me.
I was not expecting to be pregnant, and I know I said I wanted kids in the future and said to my best friend that I would go it alone by myself.
I now regret saying that.
I know I have the support of my mother, but I don't believe I'm anywhere near financially stable at all.
I have no savings and only work part time. And even living with my mother I don't want to be reliant on her.
She has bought stuff already and has said that she would look at me in a different eye after I have said I would keep it but I'm swaying both ways.
I would more than likely be looking at not going back to work after my maternity leave and it scares me as I don't want to have to be on benefits.
I only work part time as it is and my my has her own health problems so I wouldn't be able to go back to work as would have no one to watch baby.
I don't know why and I'm sorry to cause any hurt to anyone, but I have thought about abortion.
I just feel I'm not emotionaly or financially ready.
It was a shock and unexpected, I always though it would be with someone if pregnant and would have more support ect

@Cat1986 I'm so sorry you are going through this.

Not everyone will agree, but I think what you do with your body is absolutely your business alone and nobody else's. If you don't want to continue, you have every right to obtain a termination, and you do not owe anybody an explanation of why. You are also perfectly within your rights to do it and then tell your mother that you miscarried.

No, it's not perfect to lie to our mothers, but we are adults, and it's your life, not hers. It's not her business what you choose to do. You should not need to be secret, and you should have no shame in announcing your decision, but in the real world we often want to keep our choices private. It's also protecting her from being hurt.

So, ammunition for you, in case you need it:
If you want to sort out that appointment, do it quickly and quietly, go in there without telling her, and then come home "from the doctors" with sad news that you're losing the baby. The doctors have told you there's no need for intervention and you will pass the tissue naturally. Add tears if needed. No need for her to ever know you went.

Sending lots of love.

If you want a termination, you can have one! You don't need strangers on the internet or anyone else to tell you it's ok.
You have perfectly good reasons for not wanting a baby right not (and just not wanting one is enough!).
If you do decide that you want this baby, that's also ok, you will find ways to make it work!

If you want a termination that is absolutely your choice. But why could you not work and use childcare like a huge amount of parents do? As a single parent, depending on your wage you’d likely get a substantial amount of help towards the cost of childcare if that is something that is worrying you.
Also if you wanted to, you could possibly get support from the father, depending on their income.