Need some support... 30 wks gone and don't know where i'm going to be living

[vickyy]

This isn't really a request for advice... just feeling really stressed and unhappy and need cheering up

We decided to move house before the baby came as we're in a small flat. Couldn't find anywhere to buy, so decided to sell our place and rent. So we exchanged contracts today on our flat after a long delay, but just can't seem to find anywhere to rent in the area I want. 5 weeks till we are out of this flat, 10 weeks till the baby comes, and I am panicking we are going to end up living somewhere we hate.

Just want everything to be nice and ready for the baby and to have the space to think about it, but I can't even eat properly or sleep at night now for worrying.

Don't panic you will find somewhere and eveything will work itself out.

After having our house on the market for 18 months we finally sold ours 7 weeks before DS2 was due. We had stopped looking so then one weekend a v heavily pregnant me and DH looked around about 15 houses.

By the time we had an offer accepted we only had 5 weeks in which to move and thankfully as my BIL is a solicitor we managed it.

The whole thing was 'helped' by the fact that the people we bought the house off had taken out bridging finance to secure the house they wanted and were grateful to move so quickly!

We moved house on 24th March and I had a planned c-section on 29th March! By the time I came out of hospital DH and my Mum had finished the unpacking and cleaned from top to bottom!

Of course you want everything settled and it will be, but there is no point getting all worried tonight - you'll only get your blood pressure up and then you'll have fat ankles to worry about as well

Right, tomorrow morning, why don't you head off down to the estate agents and tell them what you want and then make an appt for Friday to view as many properties as you can. Point out that you have the money and can move quickly.

Thanks :-) I'm sure with the hormones raging I am getting this all out of perspective. After all I should just be thankful that so far myself and baby are healthy.

Estate agents all tell me there's nothing on the market to see, but I'll keep badgering them, and try my best not to get completely panicky in the meantime. Will try to distract myself rather than spending every waking minute fretting about it...

You can also try asking everyone you know. Even leafletting the houses in the area you are after. Someone will have a lead somewhere.

oh, you poor thing, so frustrating not to feel settled at a time when settling is obvs your top priority. it'll work out!

Wow willmouse, you've made me feel better! Good to hear not everyone gets everything 'sorted' before hand - I'm early stage pg, husband nearly out of a job and we are temporarily in a family flat while we wait to buy. Not what I envisaged but I'm sure it'll work out fine...

Good luck to you Vickyy. 10 weeks sounds like a good amount of time to get something sorted which I'm sure you will. If you're in London then gumtree.com has flats for rent if that helps.

I really feel for you vickky, with DS1 we sold and found a house we really wanted I was 20+ (can't remember exactly) the peoples house we wanted accepted our offer but hadn't found anywhere. So at 28 weeks we had sold but no-where to go was frightening, I went on a mission and looked at tonnes more house and found one we like that was vacant and agreed a cheap figure as we could complete so quickly. I have lived in the house 5 years to day and while it did need a bit of tender love and care we only had time to decorate baby room before he arrived 3 weeks later. I had great fun decorating on maternity leave!
Am now PG with DS3 and trying to do it again, I must be mad!!

Good luck and will keep fingers crossed.