First time pregnant VERY anxious

[wonderfulworld33]

Hi ladies,

I found out last week that we are expecting - our first time and we have somehow managed to conceive straight away which I wasn't expecting. Was literally shaking as I peed on the stick!

I am 5 weeks tomorrow.

We are over the moon but filled with anxiety which I know is normal BUT my mind is in over drive. What if I loose it? How will I cope when I am already so invested? What if we get to the 12 week scan and there is no heartbeat? What if there is a complication with the baby further along? What if, what if, what if!!

I really want to get excited but I know the risks and hubby keeps telling me that we need to be realistic - it's so hard when it's such happy news!

I always assumed there would be an initial drs appointment where you could talk things though but no! I have filled out the self referral midwife form, perhaps a little too soon, but not heard back so I suspect they wait until you are a little further along.

Luckily I have a busy job so I am only dwelling on these things in the evenings. I am also keeping active by swimming to release some feel good endorphins!

Just reaching out to see if anyone else is feeling this or have any suggestions? This is all so new so feeling very overwhelmed.

I know the general advice will be to relax which I am really trying to do and to enjoy this time 💜

I understand how you feel. I am also pregnant for the first time and in those early days I was so anxious too. I paid for a private early scan at 8 weeks which helped reassure me a bit.
I’m in my third trimester now which has its own set of worries. All I can advise is try to enjoy it. But I know it doesn’t help when you read so many stories of things going wrong. Unfortunately there are some things we can’t control!
Congratulations on your pregnancy and hope all goes well for you 😊❤️

Congratulations on your third trimester!
I did think about an early scan but I don't think hubby would go for it and I also wonder if I it may make it even hard if the worst happened after that. Will see how things go and give it some thought. Hope everything goes well for you over the next few weeks

Congratulations to you both!

I know it is easier said than done, but try to relax and enjoy your pregnancy. The majority of pregnancies go ahead without a hitch. Take it day by day, it's a very special time.

I thought I would stop worrying after the first trimester was over but it never really goes away. Guess that’s just part of being a mummy 😅

Thank you!

And then again I imagine when they are born!!

I second the private scan suggestion! We had one at around 8 weeks and one between the 12 and 20 week scans. It's such a long time to wait when you aren't feeling movements yet and that reassurance was wonderful- plus seeing her on the screen helped us bond ❤️

You may find this helpful.

I had a time early on in both my (planned, wanted) pregnancies when I felt almost pathologically anxious about it all. I think it’s almost a natural reaction - you’re doing something very major. Allow yourself time to inspect your new state of impending parenthood. Think about it. Help yourself feel good about it. Look after your body. The extreme anxiety will pass and you’ll bloom soon!

Thank you that's such a positive response x

I found getting private scans reassuring. You'll come more to terms with it and 'the fear' as time goes on. Once your baby starts moving it becomes even easier to manage those feelings. Congratulations on your pregnancy.

Totally normal to feel like this. I was the same with my first and honestly my second as well and to be fair even now they are well and truly out of the baby stages I still panic and worry and go and check them in the night. I still hold them way too tight when we’re on roads and I don’t let them go on trampolines because I’m terrified they’ll hurt themselves.
i even panic sometimes when I go to pick them up from nursery / after school care that for some reason they won’t be there - even though I know 100% the nursery would never give them to anyone but me!

This is just how parenting is I think. Panic, anxiety, worry. The only time I feel totally calm is when they are with me (preferably being quiet or asleep ha).

The only advice I can give is that statistically wise you are likely to have a healthy happy pregnancy and birth and baby. Yes sad, horrible, heartbreaking things can and do happen and the only thing you can do is know that you would be strong enough to cope. You are far stronger than you know.

so try to enjoy this, if you feel more comfortable just keeping it to yourself for now or maybe holding off buying things then do that, but don’t spend everyday expecting the worst. Try imagining holding your baby and seeing them crawl, walk, turning 1 etc. focus on the possibilities to keep you feeling positive and not dragged down into the “what ifs”.

oh and congratulations!

Congratulations on your pregnancy. I have also just found out I’m pregnant too and feeling exactly the same so I think it must be quite common. I seem to swing from excitement to blind panic quite quickly 😂.

We are having a scan at 7 weeks (had IVF so it’s part of that) but since it was booked it’s reassured me that they’ll check everything is ok then and I’m hoping I can relax a bit. It’s worth considering, it might help to put your mind at ease.