Found out at 8 week scan that it’s twins! Tips and advice much appreciated

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We went for a scan yesterday and were shocked to find out it’s twins. This was our 3 round of IVF and all the other rounds / cycles failed. So feeling lucky, nervous and scared. Hopefully they hang in there as we know it’s early days. So so many questions!

-I assume l will get more scans and appointments?

-l know from twins in my family and some research that l won’t go to 40 weeks. So l will probably have to tell work at 12 weeks -we had been planning to keep it quiet for longer

-I’m trying to keep on top of my nutrition. It’s hard with the 24/7 nausea so lm sticking to little and often. Trying to have plenty of fluids, protein, fruit and veg.

-Will l be allowed a c-section? For context l will be 43 years old when they’re due and it will be my first pregnancy. Word on the street is my local hospital are VERY resistive to c-sections. I know from other medical issues l have had, they don’t seem to know or follow NICE guidelines. None of my interactions with them have been positive, l doubt their ability to care for a used tissue. Never mind me and twins!

-We are busting out the spreadsheets this weekend to figure out for to pay for childcare x2. We were planning already to both do 5 days compressed into 4 so we only have to pay for 3 days but obviously we need to pay double now. Im reluctant to cut back too much as lm close to earning the same as partner, or even a little bit more. So it long-term would impact on our finances. Plus l know it will affect my pension

Any other hints and tips would be appreciated!

I would say, and I only have one (!), make sure you have help in those first few weeks at home. My partner did literally everything for us - shopping, housework, cooking, errands. But also little things like bringing me water and snacks, get hung this and that when I was breastfeeding (which seemed to be all day).

I was overwhelmed and stressed out figuring it all out. It meant I could solely focus on the baby. And like I said, that was just one! If you have a great relationship with your mum or MIL, maybe they could also stay....only if you want though!!

"get hung" = fetching

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@Batbatbatty all makes sense, thanks for that. When we thought it was 1 then l was thinking 2 weeks paternity and a weeks leave. I’m now thinking how much can he have off?! Yes, about the drinks as l remember breast feeding friends necking pints of water

I thought the get hung referred to doing washing and hanging it up 🤣