Pregnant again after miscarriage. So nervous about going to first scan, how to deal with the anxiety?

[xalexandra]

Miscarried last year at around 6 weeks. Found out that I am pregnant again and decided to wait till at least 8 weeks to get a scan. Scan is on Monday and I'm so nervous especially after last time 😩 the only thing giving me hope is I have pretty bad pregnancy symptoms with nausea and sore breasts so hopefully suggests that the pregnancy is going ok. But the thought of even walking in to getting a scan is making me feel like I'm going to have an anxiety attack. How do I deal with these nerves!! What are the chances I'll miscarry again?

Hey- I've been in your shoes and it is terrifying. Remember, today you are pregnant. It's a new pregnancy. I went on to have a healthy second pregnancy. Yes, I was an anxious mess as struggled to let go of the previous experience.

You are stronger than you think. You can get through Monday whatever the outcome. Positive thoughts being sent your way. Enjoy it for what it is today x

Just wanted to wish you luck having been there. I initially miscarried at 7 weeks with my first pregnancy and it absolutely broke my heart. Was very lucky to get pregnant again very quickly and this was successful, as were my following two (there is a year apart between each of my three boys). There was nothing that reduced my anxiety for all of them apart from paying for a private scan before the 12 weeks NHS ones. Wishing you all the luck and positive thoughts in the world

I had a healthy pregnancy after a miscarriage with my first. So did my mum, my sister and several of my colleagues.

The PTSD of a scan after miscarriage is awful. I put a note in on the booking about what had happened previously (I had a missed misscarraige at 8 weeks, baby measured 6 and found out at private scan). As they knew what had happened they were amazing with me, the whole thing feels like a blur because I was SO nervous. I waited until 10 weeks and had no idea whether we would see a baby or not. The sonographer found the baby so so quickly and I’d say within 20-30 seconds of scanning she told me everything was okay and showed the heartbeat on the screen. I also listened to pregnancy after loss mediation on you YouTube everyday leading up to my scan which may or may not help you. Just had my 20 week and everything is fine. When you lose a baby you can’t ever imagine any other outcome but the chances of it happening again are sooooo small and it’s much more likely everything will be okay. Good luck on Monday, it’s scary but you have got this. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

Did you test and when u did how did the test like look?

@nevaehlee what on earth....
She would have done a pregnancy test to confirm and I assume it looked like this: 2 lines.

Well yah? I had a miscarriage and I'm having very fainted lines on a test why I was asking

I've been there and it's awful. The only way out is through. You've just got to hold your nerve and know that you will be ok, you can cope with whatever happens. The odds of a healthy pregnancy are so much higher than a other loss - I don't think there's any increased risk of miscarriage after one loss, so you've got everything in your favour. Hang in there, it's a hard situation to be in xx

Honestly I don't think the worry ever goes away. I had recurrent miscarriage with no cause found but also went on to have healthy pregnancies.

All you can do I take one day at a time and look at the positives like you say strong symptoms.

It's not easy but you'll get through it. Good luck for your scan.

Thank you so much ❤️

That's really positive to know. Thank you ❤️

This fills me with hope! 😉

So pleased you had your 20 week scan and everything was fine! That's really good to hear; good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and thank you ☺️💕

I had a suspected ectopic so had a scan at 7 weeks and they saw no heartbeat just an empty sac. Checked me again in a week and turned out my dates were wrong. Got past the 12 week fear and then went on to miscarry in my second trimester. Out of the blue and once I felt comfortable. My second pregnancy was horrible as I just didn't feel easy at all until I was handed my baby and handed my babe I was . My third pregnancy now and the anxiety was easier this time but my brain still made sure I got passed my second trimester loss stage and then I felt a bit more relief (do you ever truly feel relief when pregnant??). The anxiety will lessen as the weeks go on but for now all you can do is keep telling yourself each time is different, sometimes it can be an unexplained loss, and that happy hormones are good right now :)

Been in your shoes too! I went for a scan at 8 weeks and found out we were closer to 9 weeks so that was a bonus.

One thing I did find - tell the person doing the scan you are anxious and have lost a baby before. When they do the scan they can the. Tell you quite quickly once they see the heartbeat.

Good luck tomorrow

@xalexandra thinking of you today, and hope your scan went/goes okay x

Thank you 💕 it's at 6pm so just the waiting around is nerve racking!! 😂 x

Thinking of you, OP. Bet the hours are dragging xx

Thinking of you OP!

Fingers crossed for you OP. Been there xx

I had my scan and I was an absolute mess before (cried on the way there) nervous wreck. Almost didn't go! But went in, had a belly scan and as soon as he scanned my belly, I saw it what I needed to see! Size matches up perfectly with when I said my last period was, strong heart beat and looks like a very healthy pregnancy he said 😁 obviously I'm not in the clear yet and don't want to her my hopes too high as I've still got another 3 weeks till the 12 week safe mark. really positive news for me and will give me some relief for a few days 😁💕

Really super news. Enjoy it for what it is, don't worry about the next few weeks. Revel in seeing your baby's heartbeat! And keeping everything crossed for a happy and healthy pregnancy

Happy for you OP!

Ahhh I am soooo pleased for you! No better feeling, you can relax a little now and try and enjoy your pregnancy. Well done you for going, I was the exact same I almost turned around but go you for doing it ❤️

Ahhhh lovely update 😊