Help.. need reassurance around who is the father.

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Please be kind as this is stressful enough and struggling with HG sickness in and out of hospital which makes it even more emotional :( I was told at an early age having children naturally would not happen for me hence the not being more careful.

I have been seeing a guy for a few months (guy no.2) but only casually. Anyway, on 18th of June I slept with another guy (he did not ejaculate inside me, but did have sex again after.. sorry if tmi), let’s call him guy no.1. I then got my period on 28th of June. After that I continued seeing guy no.2 and we decided to be exclusive, I was sleeping with him again from 30th June.

Had weird symptoms from the 15th July, took a pregnancy test on 17th which was negative. Fast forward to 20th July and I go to the doctors as so dizzy, they do another test which has a faint positive.

doctor sends me to the EPU as want to rule out ectopic, I have three scans over 1.5 weeks which eventually shows sac and yolk. Dates of scans/blood tests as follows:

22nd July: nothing can be seen, pregnancy of unknown location. hcg 130
blood test 24th - hcg 480
another scan 30th July - suggestion of gestation sac only
another scan 3rd Aug - gestation sac and yolk, letter stated pregnancy of less than 6 weeks but in right place. No sign of embryo of heartbeat at that scan.

I know it’s very likely to be my now partners as I had a period but I need 100% reassurance that these scans are accurate so early and that there is no chance it could be guy no.1? I’m so emotional as it is and this is really impacting me :( guy no.1 is not someone that I would want to be the father of my child.

my now partner is being Amazing and so supportive especially with how sick I am but the worry of this eats away at me, yet friends I have confided in say that there is no chance it could be guy no.1.. help!

Sorry, not what you want to hear, but only a DNA test will give you the 100% answer you want.

That’s all far too complicated to even try and work out I’m sorry you will need a dna test for that

It's highly unlikely that man 2 is the father.

There’s no way to tell 100% but it does seem very likely that your partner is the father, especially since you had a period after guy 1. Good luck with your pregnancy OP

Considering you had your period after sex with guy no.2 and you had sex 10 days before your period, (and most women ovulate 2 weeks before their period, but I husky this depends on your own cycle and even regular cycles can have odd months) - it seems likely that you didn’t get pregnant from guy no.2 as you are likely to have had sex a few days after ovulation when you weren’t fertile and also you got your period. Assuming it was a proper period and not spotting it seems like you couldn’t have been pregnant from guy no.2?

Are people getting mixed up on who she’s labelled as being guy 1 and guy 2

Its your partners baby op. Very unlikely to be the other guys with your dates of sex, the scans, blood tests and the period.

-You had your period on the 28th July
-You ovulated around the 12th July (day 14)
-You got a faint positive test on the 20th (8/9dpo)
-They couldn’t see anything on scan on 22nd as you were so early approx 3-4 weeks pregnant which also ties in with the hcg bloods being fairly low.
-Your next scan showed gestational sac only if it was the other guys you’d be showing around 8 weeks at this point.
-then scan on 3rd august showing pregnancy of less than 6 weeks correlates with all this and your partner being the father of the baby.

I think people are getting muddled with the numbers of the guys but it's definitely your partner's baby. All the dates and tests tie into that

Makes it confusing that the first person you slept with you are calling man number 2.

Sounds most likely to be your partner based on dates