Feel like I've been pregnant forever but have so long to go. 9 months out of last 12 :(

[nofaith]

I had a late miscarriage earlier in the year well into my second trimester. I fell pregnant again very soon afterwards and I'm now 18 weeks again.

I've been pregnant nearly the entire length of a pregnancy already this year, yet I'm only 18 weeks and have over 5 months to go Although I obviously understand why and that it's two different babies, and that my first boy is sadly gone, it does feel like it's all merging into one and it feel like it's the longest pregnancy ever.

I'm fed up and tired, sick of my boobs hurting, sick of being sick, so tired. Admittedly it was too soon after such a traumatic loss but it's too late for that now, and every time I feel him kick I am so happy to know he's ok. I'm sad about my son that I lost and I'm happy this pregnancy is going well. I feel bad for feeling this way as I should be grateful for being pregnant, and I am, it just feels relentless now.

Has anyone been in a similar boat? Is it just undeniably long? Does it speed up? I feel so early but so pregnant at the same time.

No one told me pregnancy is the slowest experience ever! I am only 7 weeks but it feels like 6 months -probably not helped by 3 years of IVF. So lots of medication, side effects and procedures. Like you l know l should be grateful but lm already sick of the crap sleep and feeling sick 🤢

I had a very premature little girl who sadly did not make it and then it took three years, IVF etc etc for me to get pregnant again and it still felt like the longest pregnancy ever. Not minimising your feelings at all, but if it helps, I really don't think there is a 'right' amount of time to wait between pregnancies and you might not have felt that much different had you waited longer.

I also suffer with morning sickness well into the second trimester so totally get how that makes it all so much harder.

Is it an option for you to take some time off work and go on holiday? A week in Wales helped to break up the time for me and have me some headspace to get into the new pregnancy.

I had a very similar experience to you in that I lost my son at 22 weeks and then fell pregnant again with my daughter just 2 months later. I gave birth twice in one year and it was very strange and surreal and both pregnancies sort of merged together.

It does suddenly speed up and it won’t be long until you have that baby in your arms and you’ll almost miss the bump (not the side effects though!!)
I had the worst PGP in my second pregnancy which stayed a while after I gave birth too, so although I didn’t have any sickness or breast pain, I understand the relentlessness of it all.

As I side note, I had counselling after my loss and through my second pregnancy which helped me to differentiate the two, even though I still haven’t fully accepted the first loss. Just a thought that it might be something that could help you if you’ve not been offered it by your hospital.

Its really difficult being pregnant again after a late loss but before you know it it will fly by. I was pregnant during lockdown and although the days were slow, before I knew it I was in labour!

Sending lots of love