Feeling towards pregnancy

[Sheila4327]

Hi,

Just wondering if there is anyone who felt negative towards having a baby whilst pregnant? Don't get me wrong I'm sure I will love the baby once they are here but at the moment I'm 13 weeks and having doubts. Abortion is not something I would consider although I respect everyone's decision. I just feel so lonely, scared, almost feel like my life is over? And I don't feel attached to the baby yet? Please anyone who felt similar let me know, and remember to be kind!

It's very normal to have doubts , it's a scary time that brings a lot of changes. Your hormones are raging , your body is changing rapidly and you are facing the unknown of becoming a mother. I think the majority of women , even if they won't admit it , have moments of thinking what the hell have I done.

Yep deffo had this and still do. I felt trapped by the pregnancy, like my body was no longer my own and then once baby arrives my life will no longer be my own. Which still makes me go... Why did I think this was a good idea? For me though, once I started to feel baby move I felt alot more connected to the baby and being pregnant. I'm 33 weeks now and still freak out sometimes but it's alot less! Although I don't get a gush of love at scans and hearing the heartbeat like others seem to. Everyone's different.

I felt like this in the early weeks too, despite being a desperately wanted baby, purposefully conceived and happened after a loss last year.

Now that I feel her, and I know her sex, I've found it easier to bond with her (and the idea of her) and am falling in love with her a little more each day.

You will get there eventually, even if it isn't for days or weeks after your baby is born.