How on earth do you cope with pregnancy after loss?

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Most woman who have had a loss and been pregnant again will probably feel the way I feel right now. I’m just under 5 weeks and just about getting by without worrying I’ll lose this baby too

It is awful but you do get through it, can't lie I haven't enjoyed my pregnancy as much as I should but I booked a couple of private scans in the first 16 weeks to help me with the anxiety. The further along I got the easier it became. Wishing you all the luck in the world OP, just take each day that comes as a good day

Exactly what the previous poster said, take each day as it comes. I’m currently 16 weeks and was petrified at first and peed on countless tests for reassurance. It was only when someone said to me that I need to learn to trust my body again and that for today it’s telling me I’m pregnant that I relaxed a little as they were right. We went for 2 early reassurance scans, one at 7 weeks (to check for a heart beat) and one at 10 weeks (as I needed the reassurance).

Take each day as it comes. Don’t focus on the big milestones, at times they seem so far away. Celebrate the small wins. Don’t let anyone else put expectations on you (I.e you need to be happy you’re pregnant) and feel the emotions but try not to let them take over. Pregnancy after loss is soooooo hard.

Wishing you all the best. ❤️

It's so hard ❤️ especially those early weeks, but agree that the best thing for me has been to take it one day at a time. When the worry flooded in I would think 'today, I am pregnant' and somehow that helped. I actually had to take myself away from threads on here for a while so I could try to take my mind off it. Take time for yourself and do what feels right for you in terms of scans etc. The anxiety doesn't go away entirely but for me it has got a lot better, I'm now 22 weeks x

I've had two neonatal losses and now expecting my third. It's very tough and you must be kind to yourself. Sometimes it helps to know that your feelings are normal and that it's ok to feel this way. My advice is- seek all the help and reassurance you need, try not to Google (it's a rabbit hole of evil) and try to take joy in every small step because it's what you and baby deserve.

I recommend the book "Pregnancy after loss" by Zoe Coates-Clarke. I've also had good support from Aching Arms who I emailed when I was struggling and they booked me in for a support call.

Hi op, it is really hard but I told myself when we were ttc again that I would try to enjoy every second of being pregnant if I were lucky enough to fall again. Thankfully I was lucky enough about 8 months later and have tried to stick by that. Don't get me wrong it's bloody tough and I've worried every day, but private scans have definitely helped reassure me slightly, even if only temporarily!

Thankfully I got given 2 early scans on the nhs due to my history, and also paid for 2 more to check on little one! People said I was mad having all those scans but it really did help seeing that she was growing and doing well!

I'm now nearly 19 weeks and it does get slightly easier as time goes on, I can feel her wriggling about a bit now too which helps!

Hang on in there, wishing you all the best x

The anxiety didn't go until I gave birth to be honest. Just take it one day at a time and be kind to yourself. Hope all goes well for you!

It’s so hard. I had a miscarriage 2 years ago and am now 26 weeks with our rainbow. The first 12 weeks were hell actually. Constantly going to the toilet to check for bleeding, I had 3 early private reassurance scans as I was convinced something was going to go wrong. Everytime I had cramps I thought that was the end. After the 12 week scan (our 4th scan) I started to relax a bit but then the anxiety crept up again the closer to the 20 week scan I got. Luckily I’d started to feel quite a bit of movement by 20 weeks so I knew she was ok but was convinced the scan would show her to have something drastically wrong.
Anyway we got through it and I’m now 26 weeks and she’s currently doing some kind of karate in my tummy.

Got everything crossed for you!!

I just felt I had to be positive. Statistics wise we are lucky in this country in that once you get to 12 weeks odds really are in your favour.

After 3 losses to be honest with you I never got excited about my current pregnancy. However I was advised by my friend who is in the medical profession to see the Dr and start on baby aspirin and progesterone straight away. I did that not thinking much of it, but it's the furthest I've been now and I'm so grateful and feel blessed to have come this far. Are u taking or doing anything differently this time?