Fuck accidental 3rd pregnancy

[ponyclub1980]

We have dd5 and ds2 & was just starting to feel like me again - kids more self sufficient, sleeping through. Have suspected pregnancy the last week but have been so scared to test. Our chosen contraception is condoms but (please don't judge) we got carried away ONCE a few weeks ago (I also didn't feel worried as knew I was out of fertile window...which I stil was according to app but all I can guess is there must have been 1 persistent swimmer in there that hung around...) Anyway I was putting off testing but now a week late I have just got this very strong positive from a sainsburys test. We really can't afford this pregnancy we r both living in our overdrafts as it is let alone going on mat leave again with 2 other children to support. I'm at my wits end just thinking about it & I have no idea how my husband is going to react... I don't want to sound ungrateful & I guess we wil make it work somehow (it's only money right?!!) I just need a hand hold I don't know who else to talk to :-(

You do have other options, op. Talk with your husband and decide on the best way forward.

Hand holding, would you consider an abortion? I am so sorry you find yourself in this situation.

OP you have other options. Take a few days talk it over, read posts on 'Pregnancy Choices' thread. Only you know what is best for you and your family, once the initial shock wears off you'll be able to make a logical decision. Good luck! X

I was in the exact same boat with my third child. Total drunken accident. And I shit myself.
My DC1 was 3.5 at the time and DC2 was 2 when I found out. I really struggled in the early weeks of the pregnancy, because I felt so sick, was dealing with 2 toddlers (mostly alone because of my exH’s job) and went through a phase where I genuinely didn’t want the baby at all and seriously considered exercising my legal right to choose. Which would have been a totally valid choice.
I chose to continue the pregnancy, and I know it sounds like the biggest clichè in the world, but once she was born, she really did complete the family. She slotted in perfectly, her older siblings practically worship the ground she walks on! Yes, money became much tighter - we needed a bigger car, holidays became even more of distant dream than they already were…but we made it work. People thought we were mad for having 3 dcs so close together, and weren’t shy about sharing those opinions.
Whatever you decide to do, it is a valid choice. Whatever works for you and your family is the right choice. And don’t let anyone make you feel like shit for your choice either way!
Take a breath. Shut the world out for a little bit. We will all be here if you need to word vomit 🖤

Would it benefit your existing kids to have another sibling? Would they lose out on resources and time with you?

You can’t afford your existing kids. Where would the money come from to raise yet another person into adulthood? Just some basic questions if you want to keep the embryo.

(Your husband knew what he risked when he chose to ejaculate into you without contraception, so don’t worry about his reaction, think about yourself and your existing kids and the various crises’s coming everyone’s way-cost of existing, climate catastrophe etc.)

I had a very unplanned 3rd pregnancy but live in a country where I didn’t have any options.

I adore my DC3, and whilst they have brought so much happiness to our family, I can also say that 3 so close in age has had a huge impact on our lives, including my career, my marriage and my finances. I would be lying if I said I had never wondered about things being different.

Also had an unplanned pregnancy with the third child and very close age gaps (three kids 4 and under.)

Whilst I love DC3 and they have brought us lots of happiness, there has been a huge impact financially in every way (bigger house, holidays, days out, birthdays etc.) It has also impacted my career and earning potential and has affected our marriage -it feels a much bigger deal for one of us to be juggling 3 kids compared to 2 for example.

You do have options OP and whatever choice you make will be right for your family.