Missed miscarriage

[candycrush789]

So I should be 9 weeks pregnant. I went for a private scan yesterday, and unfortunately my baby had passed away 2 weeks ago at 7 weeks 😭. I saw my baby on a scan at 6+6 and it had a heart beat and my pregnancy was classed as viable. The poor thing died the next day. From the start it was measuring small and behind, I was so sure of my dates as I always ovulate around about the same time so I guess this was a factor. What happens now? This baby was very very very much wanted and we had start planning stuff right down to names, even got a few bits. I'm still feeling very pregnant which doesn't help and I haven't had any bleeding or cramping. Mentally, I'm not ok. I suffer with a bit of mental health anyway so I'm scared this will reignite my depression. I've woken up in tears after a rubbish night sleep due to pregnancy insomnia. Why? Why did It happen? I'm not sure I'll ever be able to get over this, right now it doesn't seem possible and I wish I died instead of my poor baby. There's no point to this post just felt like i had to offload 😔💔 sorry if you've got this far....

@candycrush789 I’m so sorry for your loss.

Im pretty sure emotionally it’s the hardest thing I’ve been through, physically too. I found out it was a mmc in April, it took me about 3-4 days after that before the hormones dropped out my system, and another 10 days until I started to bleed.

Do you have anyone you can talk to, support around you? My DH and mum were a huge help in just listening to me or being there to talk. Take as much time as you need to process this.

I think about 1 in 4 have a miscarriage and quite a lot of miscarriages are chromosomal issues- eg the pairs didn’t add up to the right number during the conception process. I know this information might not help right now though.

There is also a miscarriage forum on here too with lots of posts that I found helpful. I only found it when I was looking for miscarriage information at the time.

@Blue2020 my dh is being supportive bless him, I can see he's hurting though. I have 2 other children and they keep cuddling me, there my shining light at the moment.

It is isn't it I thought I was nearly out of the 1st trimester, but nope. My baby passed away 3 weeks ago and I still feel so pregnant, no cramping, no bleeding. Still severe morning sickness which I don't think has helped because Its making me believe everything is OK when clearly it isn't..

Been told to go to my epu today so I'm hoping they will accept that I want surgical management as I feel the more it drags on the worse I will feel. I understand lots of woman go through it but when it happens to you, damn its so hard 😭 I wanted my baby. And life is so cruel.

Thank you for awnsering to be honest I don't even know why I'm writing on here I suppose I just need to offload if nothing else.

@candycrush789 firstly I’m so sorry you’re going through this, it’s absolutely nothing you did or didn’t do, but chances are you will never get a reason why this happened.

If you can find details for your nearest Early Pregnancy Unit or Assessment Centre, they will do another scan for you to confirm and take you through your options. Some you can self-refer, others you have to go via your GP, but they’ll be kind either way.

I’ll get you a link to the latest miscarriage support thread, I’m sadly the OP on that one anyway.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/miscarriage/4559567-support-thread-for-those-experiencing-or-recently-experienced-a-mcmmc-thread-6-all-welcome?page=15&reply=119639135

Just seen you’re already going to the EPU, and that DH is supportive, that’s good.

@Sunbird24 thank you for replying. I saw my baby at 6+6 and the heart was flickering away, I got told my pregnancy was viable and healthy and then 4 days after it passed away. To be honest I don't think I'll ever be able to get over this. They sent the photos to my oh email and I can't bring myself to look at them, its like looking at what I could of potentially had 😭💔

Just wanted to chip in with some support. Sending love

Dear candycrush789, I'm so sorry for your loss. I've been there also. The devastation takes a while to leave and if I'm being honest, it visits you even 20/30 years later but you eventually learn to manage it. I know it's very raw for you at the moment. I went onto having 2 very complicated but successful pregnancies. You will also be a mummy. x

@candycrush789 I'm really sorry for your loss . I had a mmc in 2019 after seeing a heartbeat too. I opted for surgical management and this was the best choice for me. I hope you're supported with your request.

It can take a good few months for your body/cycles to return to normal after surgery just as an advisory.

I had some counselling after my mmc and that really helped me.

I'm so sorry. I had a missed miscarriage and it's horrible. I recommend The Worst Girl Gang Ever on Facebook and Instagram.

I've got 2 children already which are literally my shining light at the moment but it is so so hard. Worst part of it is I still feel ever so pregnsnt and have had morning sickness all day 😔 I'm going into hospital tomorrow for a scan to confirm part of me has a glimmer of hope but I know I shouldn't as I know setting myself up for more heartache. I can't stop crying haven't slept or eaten. Life is so cruel

I'm so sorry. Pretty much the same thing happened to me at Christmas. Had seen a heartbeat about 6 weeks and then they died. I had a short bleed but really nothing massive, and pregnancy hormones continued. I ended up getting the surgical management under a general anaesthetic as my body just kept going like it was pregnant.

The NHS were absolutely lovely with me, I will say. I'm now 16wks+4 days, and keeping everything crossed. It did take a while to conceive again, think it took a while for my body to recover.

Wishing you all the best, and remember that it wasn't anything you did xx.

I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through @candycrush789 , it's brutal isn't it 💔.

I just had my 3rd MVA in 15 months this morning...also after seeing baby with a heartbeat at a previous scan and EPU staff being very happy, to then being told at the next scan that heart had stopped and we'd lost baby.

Please be kind to yourself and give yourself time to grieve- you are allowed to feel upset/angry/heartbroken, they are natural reactions to loss. After 3 missed mc, I feel almost numb and as if I'm looking down at my life as someone else...right now I'm trying to focus on recovering post surgery, but the emotional journey to recovery is a longer and harder one. I hope time is kinder to all of us in this awful boat ❤️.

I'm very sorry for your loss😥.Ive had also missed miscarriage , and scan showed my baby died two days after scan in private clinic . I found out later at 12 weeks scan that I was carrying that pregnancy for another month. I'm thinking that this ultrasound might have triggered the miscarriage, it was very unpleasant examination and I had doubts it has been carried out how it should. I am still recovering physically from what came after. It is very hard time. I'm sure you can find support groups and professional help.

PLEASE HELP**

So I found out I was pregnant on the 22nd February with a positive frer test, I worked out I’d be about 4/5 weeks. I then had really slow progression and didn’t get past 1-2 weeks on clear blue and had heavy cramps but no bleed. I went to the doctors and they sent me for an early scan on 1st March, they didn’t see any pregnancy but said “looks like you’ve ovulated again”?! I didn’t know you could ovulate still pregnant or so close to having a chemical pregnancy!?. I then was monitored and my hcg dropped from 128 to 52, they confirmed the pregnancy was not viable (devastated), I had a miscarriage in October 2022 too so it was a double blow.

I still haven’t bled and me and my partner realised we’d been having regular sex even on the day I had the scan where they told me I was ovulating.

My question is, can I get pregnant without bleeding or expelling the chemical pregnancy? Someone please help, I’m so hopeful I may be able to but I can’t find any answers online.