Im 17 weeks pregnant and really stressed. My parents drinking is out of control and then his attitude changes. He can become snappy, paranoid, accusing me of saying things I’ve not said, hearing wrong when I’m on the phone, also tried to make out im accusing him of messaging women, do you think I’ve been with someone else etc and generally a nasty person to be around. He drinks every day. He said he was cutting down but it’s not happened. He’s admitted he has a problem but won’t do anything about it. He drinks a 3lite bottle of cider and 2-4 cans of cider aswell. That is during the week. I don’t know how he gets up for work. At the weekend he drinks more.
There’s been a few times now that we’ve argued about his drinking and how it changes him. He always has an excuse. I’ve been at work. It’s the weekend, it’s sunny…..
the other day he went to bed after his drinking with his attitude and without a word. I went up and said how ignorant are you. He then started banging doors . He Went to to toilet while I was on the phone and accused me of saying something I never said. Then More door banging. I went back up stairs to say you better stop n he was laid in bed crying to his music on his phone… we’ve not really spoken since . Just odd words. Tonight he didn’t come straight home . It was nearly 2 hours later after he text and said I’m on my way baring in mind I was cooking tea. I went to the shop and he was sat on a bench with a can of cider. I came back home and he followed 10 mins later. I said I’d seen him and his excuse was he walked home got tired and needed a drink- thirsty he said. Ate his tea went in the shower and went to bed. I asked him to put the bin out and he said tomorrow. I can’t live like this it’s making me on edge and depressed . He knows he has a problem but does nothing , not even cut down. He’s making no effort and has an excuse for everything. I said we’re going to end up splitting up if you carry on Cus im not having a baby around you like you are and in this environment. I’ve told him a few times now and it’s falling on deaf ears. He’s making me despise him. I really didn’t want to split up but this can’t carry on. I can’t live with someone that’s choosing drink over everything. I’m not sure what to do for the best… do I wait and see if he changes his ways or not. I’m really fed up with it all