I want to keep my baby

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I'm 29, I really want to keep my baby. My family and friends keep telling me it's a mistake. My partner doesn't want it either. I just want to run away and have my baby.

I'm 8 weeks pregnant, 29, full time job, no other children.

your body, your choice.

If you want to carry on with the pregnancy then do that.
get planning for budgeting for maternity leave now.

Go for it. I'm a single parent and have been since DD was born. It's tough but wonderful. Do what you are happy with. Sending love

I'm a single mum too. It really isn't that hard as long as you have an income. You're a grown woman, not a teen and know your own mind. It will probably end your relationship though.

Do you have somewhere to live? Is your income sufficient to support you in a one bed flat - you don't need more than that.

You will get £85 child benefit per month and maintenance from the father if he is working. Do you know what he earns? The CMS calculator will give you a rough idea how much.

For the moment though, you need somewhere to live and some savings to see you through maternity leave. If you are sure, concentrate on those.

I was a single mum first time married (for a while) second time.
For me, being a single mum was actually easier. Not to say that's true for everyone, obviously.

I'd say don't put yourself through an abortion if that's not what you want OP. 💐

You’ll regret it forever if you go through an abortion you don’t want. You’ll never regret having your baby, even if it is hard. Do the right thing for you.

Do you live with your family? Do you depend on them financially? Do you have serious health problems that they support you with?

Firstly yoyr body your choice.. however why are they saying its a mistake? It seems a perfect age

It’s your baby and your choice.
why are all your friends and family thinking you shouldn’t have the baby?

What are the reasons your friends and family think it's a mistake Op? How long have you been with your partner and do you live together?

Answers to questions.

I live alone in a 2 bed house.
I work 60hrs a week, and have quite good amount of savings.
I have no health conditions.
My partner works a 49hr a week job.
We have only been together 4months.
I am very close to my family and do not want to loose them over this.
My friends are all childless.
They think that it could ruin my career and they know ow much I love my job.

You’re an independent adult. Do what you feel is right for you. You might find that your family come round to the idea over time, once they realise that you have made your choice and they start seeing your pregnancy as a future grandchild. If they can see that you have a plan and that you can handle this and still continue on your career path after you have your child it would help.

I’d plan to do this alone and then any help is a bonus. I definitely wouldn’t rush anything with your DP. Focus on you and your baby. Congratulations!

If you want to keep your baby you do that! You will regret having a termination you never wanted in the first place. It has to be YOUR decision no one elses. Your family don’t have to live with your decision u do. It sounds like you are comfortable financially and you are at a good age to have a baby. Your career will continue once you’ve had the baby and had your mat leave if you want it to. If your family are close and think that much about you they should support you. If they turn their backs on you for having a wanted child that says more about them and they will be the ones missing out. Be ready to do this by yourself but sounds like you would manage ok on the little info youve shared. Your partner may come round he may not. Hope you are ok x

If you want your baby then keep your baby. ❤There's so much support out there that can be accessed, please don't live with the regret of a termination x

You won't ruin your career. Maternity leave is there for a reason, as are maternity protections.

If you were to terminate the pregnancy it should be because it's what you want, don't listen to everyone else, make the decision that you want to make. It might be an idea to talk it through with someone impartial like a councellor.

Of course you can keep your baby! Of course you can keep your job too!

Sorry your partner and family are so shit. If they’re pressuring you to abort a baby you’ve told them you want, I suggest you stop contact with them until it’s too late to have an abortion.

29 is a perfect age to have a baby.

I had an international career up until the year before I had ds. Overseas usually two trips every month. I just moved to the UK version of the same job, which involved a 10% pay cut.

After maternity leave, I found a lovely childminder very close to the office. I dropped DS off every morning before work, picked him up on the way home. I was less than a mile away if he needed me or was poorly.

Money was a bit tight for the two years but not too bad. In my experience, family come round once they see you are coping without too many difficulties.

My only bit of advice is take out family legal insurance before you announce the pregnancy to your employer.....just in case your work try to be difficult. Peace of mind for £25. 😊 Good luck.

You will regret it forever if you abort a baby you want.
Your fertility will start declining very soon, you could not only end up haunted by being bullied into an abortion and struggle to get pregnant again....

Keep the baby. Sorry your partner and family are so awful. Your body, your choice!

Absolutely keep your baby if that's what you feel, it's not up to your family to dictate your life, you're 29 not 16 you make make your own decisions

You seem to be very good position so I would just carry on with the pregnancy, do what you feel in your heart. The people telling you not to keep the baby will most likely change thier mind once he/she arrives.