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Will I still get a c section ?

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thunderonlyhappenswhenits · 30/08/2022 18:22

So I had a phonecall off one of my consultants team today and told him I would like an elective c section, gave him my reasons and he said he agrees and understands why I want one and that he is happy to put the request in. And according to him that's that I will be getting one but I still need to have a face to face appointment with someone to make sure I fully understand the risks etc and to sign consent forms I presume.

Just wondering if this is normal?
Worrying I'll experience some kind of pushback now at this face to face appointment. I did ask if it means at this appointment someone could potentially say I can't have it afterall and he said no, the only thing that may change is if something with the baby changes and then it would just be brought forward.

I asked about a date and he said he would request it for the day I'm 39 weeks and to expect a letter through the post hopefully with the date of the c section and a letter for my face to face. He did say it might be hard to get me in for a face to face appointment now but if they can't then when I have my next growth scan it'll just be sorted then.

Does this all sound right ?

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Beachsidesunset · 30/08/2022 18:35

All sounds right to me. The face to face is just to go through the potential risks to ensure you're making an informed decision. If you are sure and have educated yourself about consequences you'll be fine.

webuiltthiscityonrockandwheat · 30/08/2022 18:47

This was my experience. I knew as soon as I was pregnant I wanted a c section and told my consultant at 16 weeks. They arranged an appointment (on the phone, lockdown baby) to go through the risks and procedures and it was booked for when I was 39+5. My midwife also spent some time going over what to expect which was useful

Allgoodthings1 · 30/08/2022 18:59

Yes don’t worry. I had a c-section due to severe tokophobia. It was during covid so I had two telephone appointments. The first one they hit me with all the (exaggerated) risks. I had already researched the proper risks for years myself and just said a quick ‘yip, fine’ to it all. The second one I’d imagine some people are still weighing up their options usually but I was so definite on my decision that she got the message in the first phone call and just booked it. She didn’t tell me the date until the second phone call. They will read you out the risks and if it’s anything like mine itl be the risks of an emergency section going badly wrong after someone’s been in labour for days 🙄 Just make it clear you’re well informed and have looked into it a lot on your own and they’ll agree to it. Good luck

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thunderonlyhappenswhenits · 30/08/2022 22:21

Thanks ladies. It's a relief to know it's standard procedure.
He was nice about it which to be honest i wasn't expecting as I'd heard they might be funny, he just said first of all I need to ask you your reasons which he accepted, and then he went through the major risks, because I inject blood thinners daily he said the main one for me is major bleeding, but that can be minimised with timings of my injections.

Just got myself worked up after thinking now I have to explain it all again to somebody different who might not see it the same way...

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Val2021 · 31/08/2022 08:59

I had a reasonably traumatic birth with my first which led to birth trauma/PTSD/severe anxiety.

I really want to start trying for a 2nd but the thought of labour again is too scary. Do you know it they would allow a c section in tbis instance? Not for a 2nd do I think this is an easy way out but I think it would help my fear and experience 2nd time around.

PS. Good luck!!

CurlyNo2 · 31/08/2022 09:04

Val2021 · 31/08/2022 08:59

I had a reasonably traumatic birth with my first which led to birth trauma/PTSD/severe anxiety.

PS. Good luck!!

Yes this is a legitimate reason.

I had everything you stated and more including a baby with a birth injury and was given a straight yes. I have opted for a meet in the middle, c-section date booked in for 40+1 but if I go into labour before then, I’ll hopefully be able to deliver vaginally.

My consultant was very sympathetic and went with my wishes.

Jamaisy82 · 31/08/2022 09:08

Yes sounds right. I got given an appointment to discuss the c section and book it in etc I saw consultant at about 35 weeks when I was booked in for it for 39 weeks I'm having my section on 8th September and my pre op two days before.

Val2021 · 31/08/2022 09:17

Thank you so much and good luck for your new arrival! X

WorryMcGee · 31/08/2022 09:22

This all looks normal to me. I told the midwife at my booking appointment that I needed a c-section because of severe tokophobia and that I couldn’t continue with the pregnancy unless it was agreed. I had to have two appointments to go through risks etc but they weren’t preachy so I’d done my research in preparation for an argument I didn’t end up having! I had my calm, lovely c-section at 38+6. Good luck and congratulations ❤️

MsBartolozzi · 31/08/2022 14:47

I’m going to ask for a c-section, for various reasons, and I’m seeing on this thread that a lot of people spoke to a consultant about it rather than a midwife?
I had my booking appointment already but didn’t mention it to the midwife as I was already so nervous. This is my first pregnancy and I’m now nearly 9 weeks. I was told I won’t see a community midwife until I’m 15 weeks, should I just mention it to her then? Or is there another channel I need to go through?

Jamaisy82 · 31/08/2022 15:00

@MsBartolozzi mentioning to midwife at 15 weeks appointment is fine as still loads of time. I got given an appointment with a doctor at the hospital after seeing my midwife because my first birth was an emergency c section so they wanted to discuss my options but didn't need to decide then. I was given an appointment at about 35 weeks with consultant to decide exactly what i was wanting to do and I opted for elcs and she booked me I'm for 39 weeks.

MsBartolozzi · 31/08/2022 15:08

@Jamaisy82 thank you! As this is my first I have no idea what I’m doing or who I’m supposed to talk to. I’ll be sure to mention it at my 15 week appointment and just hope I don’t get a lot of push back. I’ve researched everything to the point of obsession, so I feel I am making an informed choice!

Jamaisy82 · 31/08/2022 15:17

@MsBartolozzi my last child was 22 years ago ha so I kind of forgot everything and things were different then so I didn't really know what was going on either. But yes mention it to midwife and I'm sure she will book you in with somebody to talk through the options fingers crossed and good luck.

MsBartolozzi · 31/08/2022 15:33

@Jamaisy82 thank you. My friends don’t have kids, so it’s hard to know who to ask! Hopefully it’ll all go okay.

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thunderonlyhappenswhenits · 31/08/2022 17:43

My badger notes have been updated and basically say 'ELCS 39/40 antenatal clinic after next growth scan face to face for ELCS consent and discussion'

My next growth scan isn't until 22nd September, 39 weeks is 3rd October. It all seems abit tight?? Has anyone had these final discussions so close to when it's meant to happen?

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webuiltthiscityonrockandwheat · 31/08/2022 18:23

I think I only got my date about a week before hand. They have so much going on even without emergency c sections thrown in that they can't plan much further ahead

AgathaMystery · 31/08/2022 18:31

thunderonlyhappenswhenits · 31/08/2022 17:43

My badger notes have been updated and basically say 'ELCS 39/40 antenatal clinic after next growth scan face to face for ELCS consent and discussion'

My next growth scan isn't until 22nd September, 39 weeks is 3rd October. It all seems abit tight?? Has anyone had these final discussions so close to when it's meant to happen?

Yup this is totally normal. Also - no matter WHAT date you are given - be ready emotionally for that date to be changed/pushed back. It does happen, not casually but when they have to rearrange it’s because of clinical need.

sageandbasil · 31/08/2022 18:47

@Val2021 yes they would. I'm shocked that they asked OP hee reasons as everyone I know whose asked for one hasn't had to make their case.
My friend just had one for your reasons Val. Hope it goes better this time x

Val2021 · 31/08/2022 19:03

Thank you so much @sageandbasil this has genuinely given me the confidence to think about starting to try again! X

Agapanthus13 · 31/08/2022 21:25

So glad to hear that things are progressing well with your planned c-section OP.

Can anyone recommend any website / information to read about planned c-sections. From the outset of TTC (4.5 years ago- it’s been a long ivf journey) I’ve known a planned c-section is the route that I think is best for me & baby (I faint at my period pain and have ended up in a&e for ovulation) - but I’m terrified that I’ll be pressured down the vaginal birth route and will end up with a traumatic emergency. Ive got my first midwife appointment in 2weeks and am concerned it will simply be dismissed as not a valid reason? Any advise would be greatly appreciated.

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thunderonlyhappenswhenits · 01/09/2022 08:49

Glad to hear it's normal and not being left too late... just for visions of them being like 'no it's too late now' I'm just hoping I get some confirmation through the post before my next scan as it'll make me feel better !

@Agapanthus13 I've only read the nice guidelines of what the hospital trusts have to follow. I've read alot of old Mumsnet threads by googling 'planned c section' and some really go into detail about the whole procedure which is worth a read.
Try not to worry (even though I am myself ha!) my midwife was very supportive, didn't question it at all!

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