Recurrent miscarriage

[caitlinnjacksmummy]

Hi, this is so hrd for me to write, as I am due in today at 12pm for a d+c, have just had my 3rd miscarriage, 2nd missed miscarriage, already have a DD,6 and DS, 10 months, but being told now I have to go thru tests to see why, but cannot help wondering about something, this is the 3rd time I have lost a bby and each time I was on antidepressants{citalopram} and had to try wean myself off, but I wasn't on them with DD or DS and they were fine . Has anyone had a d+c and requested another scan beforehand to double check? Would be grateful for ANY replies and input xx

[belgo]

Caitlinnjacksmummy - how sad for you, and how worrying. By all means request another scan before you go through with the d&c.

I understnad a little f how you feel - I have two children, and sincen then have had two miscarraiges. I know that if I m/c again, I'll have to have tests.

Sometimes it's just very bad luck, and I'm sure it's not down to anything you have done.

[Katelyn]

You can request another scan and in fact, prior to my D & C in October 07, i was offered one for peace of mind - they will understand.

Sorry for your losses.

Katelyn x

[hertsnessex]

hi caitlinjacksmummy,

i had a mc after having my 2 boys. i was doing nothing different, so it may be nothing to do with the anti-ds - but maybe worth getting it chkd out to ut your mnd at rest.

so sorry you are going through this. i lost our 3rd baby nearly 2yrs ago and it still hurts.

cx

[caitlinnjacksmummy]

Hi belgo, thanks for gettn bk to me, I am o upset and just holding it together, yesterday was my birthday too and I spent most of it balling my eyes out....it's a terrible thing and my sympathy with u too, it really has put me off for life, it's so much heartache to go thru, I would like another scan but then do not want to see a dead baby again I am soo dreading today xx

[caitlinnjacksmummy]

Wow, thanks so much for everyones replies, so nice..congrats justjules and I have evrything crossed for you, katelyn did u take up the offer of a scan b4 your d+c xxx

[belgo]

yes those scans are very hard caitlinnjacksmummy. I didn't look last time at the scan.

Justjules - wishing you loads of luck with this pregnancy.

[caitlinnjacksmummy]

Oh did you justjules? That is my fear seeing my dead baby again, its just horrible, but last time had d+c it was in my mind that I wished I had asked but...... oh i don't no xxx

[Katelyn]

caitlinnjacksmummy,

I'd already had one the day before and saw what I needed to see. I went home with the view that i wanted it to happen naturally, but having gotten home - it all got too much so decided to go back for a D&C the next day. So no, only because I knew what i'd seen and didnt want to go through it anymore.

But don't feel awkward about asking - you're well within your right.

Katelyn x

[Katelyn]

caitlinjacksmummy

how many weeks are you?

Katelyn

[caitlinnjacksmummy]

Well went for early scan as i had a fall, thot i was nearly 9 weeks going on LMP but they sed was only nearly 7 weeks, but saw hertbeat, then Went back fri thinkin was either 13 weeks going on LMP or 10 weeks 4 days going on early scan and baby just measured 8 weeks 5 days and no h/b xx

[Katelyn]

Thats still very early to detect a heartbeat. Some people dont get a heartbeat for a few weeks yet.

Have you had your HCG levels tested?

[caitlinnjacksmummy]

Eh got blood taken after the scan but dunno wat for? and then given tues at 12 to come in for d+c xx

[caitlinnjacksmummy]

gotta go now, due in in half an hour, will let u all no how it goes xx

[Katelyn]

Do let us know.

K

[imopop]

Caitlinnjacksmummy-so soory to hear of your news. I had 6 miscarriages after having my daughter and it is awful. I found I needed to know if there was a cause and went to st.mary's recurrent miscarriage clinic and saw Mr. Rai who is lovely. They did find a cause and now I am 19 weeks pregnant. Give yourself time and you may feel you want some investigations. Please come onto mumsnet for support. Thinking of youx

[caitlinnjacksmummy]

Hi everyone, I had my d+c yesterday, went in at 12 and didnt get taken down to theatre til 4! Which was agonising, but I am just gla its all over. Physically I feel ok, but obviously not great mentally, the dr I saw afterwards said that he thinks I have just been extremely unlucky as I have managed to have 2 successful pregnancies too. But i am still going to be checked out xxxxx

[Katelyn]

Plenty of rest for you.

They gave me some anti biotics in case of infection but my surgeon was pretty sure he got all of it.

You know, some 3 months later you still think about it all the time so dont beat yourself up. I planted a tree for my m/c and its growing just lovely.

Good luck with the next.

Katelyn

[caitlinnjacksmummy]

Thanku katelyn, yeah i planteda tree after both my miscarriages last time too, will plant another one too xxxx

[newbishad]

Dear catlinjacksmummy,

I would just like to say I am so sorry to hear your news. I have had two ectopic pregnancies over 4 years and understand the grief. I too battled with medication for anxiety, particularly after the first pregnancy.
I wish you all the best for the future, whatever you decicide.

[caitlinnjacksmummy]

Hi newbishad thanku, it is terrible isn't it? I would like nothing more to try again soon but petrified, still have to make appointment with gp about gettn tests to see if there is any answer as to why this has happened 3 times now, Strange that I have had Jack not even a year ago .... Different partner for my dd, 6 xx